Our lives are on hold…Staying upbeat through the process…

Typical house in the Campanario neighborhood in Madeira, where we lived for almost three months in 2014. Excuse the tilted photo…we were on a very steep hill.

In the past two weeks since we’ve been sick, time has passed so quickly that one day folds into another, and we hardly notice. We are anxious to reconnect with family and friends when we are our “old selves” again.

In reality, we aren’t our “old selves” lately anyway. The waiting period until we leave for Cleveland in two months is dragging on, regardless of how busy we are. Typically, we love the anticipation of our lives, but this type of anticipation is hardly enjoyable or exciting. The sooner we “get this show on the road,” the better.

Days pass when I hardly think about it in an attempt to stay upbeat and not be dragged down by the eventuality of this gross surgery. When we are with our friends and family, we are cheerful, and they never know it is on our minds. When it’s just the two of us, we do very well. It’s not “doom and gloom” in our daily lives. We still laugh, talk, and enjoy our time together.

My primary concern is that I’ll start getting severe symptoms of valve disease before we get to Cleveland and have to seek medical care in Minnesota on an emergency basis. I’m hoping I can hold out for two more months. I have mild symptoms, but nothing I can’t live with for now.

It’s been a little more difficult while we’ve been sick these past few weeks. This Friday will be two weeks since I got sick and three weeks for Tom. Tom is still feeling tired and out of sorts. I don’t feel weak or tired but cough quite a bit, although it’s not a dry, hacking cough.

In any case, it’s been dull and uneventful these past few weeks. Hopefully, we can go to Billy’s Bar and Grill in Anoka this Friday to get together with Tom’s siblings and other family members for happy hour and dinner. Gosh, I haven’t had a glass of wine since Vincent’s graduation party on June 7, not that I’ve missed it.

Often weeks go by, and we don’t drink any alcohol. For us, adult beverages are more about socialization and ritual than “getting a buzz,” which rarely happens for either of us. Based on my heart situation, I am very cautious about drinking wine, sticking to small portions when I imbibe. Tom, always the driver, also keeps his consumption to a minimum.

The walking is going OK. Yesterday, I walked for a total of 3500 steps, which is the most I’ve been able to do for quite a while. I set my phone’s timer for once an hour or less, depending on how I feel that day. My new goal is to stretch the time I am walking instead of a specific number of steps while keeping the end-of-the-day step count in mind.

Today is another beautiful sunny day, making the walking all the more enjoyable. But, the struggle to walk causes me to concentrate on not teetering while walking to avoid falling. My gait is not consistent and steady.

We wish a fantastic summer day for our friends and family in the northern hemisphere and a pleasant winter day for our friends in the southern hemisphere.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, June 26, 2014:

A papaya tree in the house’s side garden in Campanario, Madeira. For more photos, please click here.

Comments and responses Our lives are on hold…Staying upbeat through the process…

  1. Gary Weichmann Reply

    Here’s an idea. I know you think I’m an angry man but I’m not. I would take a train out to the west coast. Get a nice sleeper car. Have your meals in the kitchen car. Watch the scenery pass you buy. Very little stress. Might be a little pricey but you can take it with you. Medical issues – roll the dice.

    Gary

    • worldwide-admin Post authorReply

      Gary, thanks for your input. However. I was told to stay close to a medical facilities while I wait this out. A lot could happen we are 90 minutes from Mayo Clinic. It feels a lot safer than traveling right now.

      Best regards,
      Jess & Tom

  2. Carolyn Smith Reply

    Hi Jess and Tom, so sorry to read about all your medical issues – no doubt you have tested for Covid which still seems to rear its head from time to time in the UK with a nasty cough being the chief symptom. We have very much enjoyed seeing all the photos of Madeira having just visited there for 2 weeks in May for the first time – they bring back many happy memories of our visit there, particularly the wonderful wild flowers everywhere. Hope all goes well with you both – Maharajah train seems quite a while ago now! Peter and Caro x

    • worldwide-admin Post authorReply

      Caro, we didn’t test for Covid but didn’t feel we had it. Even when I went to urgent care, they didn’t test me for it. Glad you’ve been enjoying the Madeira photos. The flowers and terraces there were amazing! Yes, India seems so far away right now. Hope you both are well.

      Much love,
      Jess & Tom

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