Day 22…Minnesota family visit…One day and counting…Yesterday, another visit to Urgent Care…

Once we arrive in Johannesburg, we will stay overnight at the airport hotel and then fly to Nelspruit/Mpumalanga/Kruger in the morning. From there, we’ll pick up the rental car and then drive to Marloth Park (about 90 minutes).

Here we are at 11:00 am on Monday, and somehow, almost everything is packed. All that remains are the clothes we are wearing and a few toiletries that will find their way into our bags tomorrow before we head out. There is a quiet sense of completion in the room, as if the suitcases themselves are resting, waiting patiently for the final zip.

Later this afternoon, we will head over to TJ and Sarah’s home for a barbecue, one last gathering with them before we leave. Tammy will be there, along with Tracy and Vincent, and I already know it will be one of those visits where you try to stay present while acknowledging that goodbye is approaching. These moments always feel a little heavier, even when filled with laughter and familiar conversation.

Tomorrow morning, Greg will stop by the hotel after returning from his weekend away with Heather. They were in Chicago to attend her daughter Hannah’s graduation, and it will be so good to see him, even if only briefly. There is something meaningful about those final visits, those last hugs, those fulfilling reassurances that distance does not diminish connection.

My dear friend Chere stopped by for a few hours yesterday morning, and we moaned over how little time we had together during this visit. Cherie and Gary travel a lot, too, but we always manage to stay in touch, as with my dear friend Karen in Florida and many other dear friends throughout the world.

Our flight to Atlanta is scheduled for 4:09 in the afternoon. We will likely arrive at the airport around 1:00 to return the rental car and check in, giving ourselves plenty of time to move through the process without feeling rushed. It is the beginning of a long few travel days that will eventually carry us across the ocean on that sixteen-hour flight to Johannesburg. In total, we’ll be traveling for roughly 34 hours, plus the 11-hour layover in Johannesburg and the 90-minute drive to Marloth Park, resulting in almost a full two-day journey.

Yesterday, though, brought a different kind of reality. By early afternoon, my head was pounding, and my face hurt, where my sinuses are located, every time I moved.  I finally accepted what had been lingering in the background for days. After more than a month of dealing with RSV and pneumonia, it became clear that a sinus infection had taken hold. It made no sense to ignore it, especially with such a long journey ahead.

The wait at Chanhassen Urgent Care stretched to almost three hours. I suggested to Tom that he head back to the hotel rather than sit there with me, and he agreed. He dropped me off at 1:30, and by the time we were both back in the room again, it was close to 5:00, after we picked up the prescription for antibiotics, which is another five-day course of the same medication I had taken for the pneumonia.

I have now taken two doses, one last night and one this morning, and already I feel the difference. It is remarkable how quickly relief can come once you begin addressing what is wrong. Packing this morning felt entirely different from what it would have been yesterday. Instead of struggling through each movement, I was able to focus, organize, and move forward with purpose.

We have come to realize that we can pack everything in about three hours. There was a time when I would fuss over it for days, carefully considering every item, every possibility. Now, it feels simpler, more intuitive. The only exception is Marloth Park, where I gather nonperishable food items, along with a few pans and kitchen supplies, which remain there for our use, and Louise stores them for us.

When we arrive, Vusi and Zef will have already delivered the bins and our camp chairs, the ones we use when we sit by the river. They will also bring the items we ordered online, including Tom’s favorite Lion beer and low-carb Prosecco for me. It always feels a bit surreal that these small comforts are waiting for us, even so far from where we began.

I find myself thinking about those first evenings back, when we settle onto the veranda with a drink in hand, watching the wildlife as it comes and goes. In South Africa, adult beverages at sundown are called “sundowners,” and they hold a kind of peace that is difficult to describe, often enjoyed with our many friends in the bush. There are so many reasons, along with the wildlife, that remind me why we return, again and again.

I will miss Norman. That absence will be felt in ways I cannot quite put into words. But I also know that, in time, new connections will form. The bush has a way of filling your heart again, often when you least expect it.

Life there is not always gentle. There are harsh realities that exist alongside the beauty, and they are impossible to ignore. Yet somehow, it is within that balance that we find meaning. It is not perfect, but it is real, and that has always been enough.

If we can, we’ll post again tomorrow during our layover in Atlanta, which you will see much later than our usual posting time.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, June 8, 2016:

We spotted this friendly neighbor (no English) making bowls, as shown in her hands, which are used for offerings at Hindu temples. For more photos, please click here.

Day 19…Minnesota family visit….Today is our 5000th post!!!…Four days and counting…

Rookie, Tom, and I, and Joe Soucheray. It was such fun visiting the guys and participating in the podcast.

We are still reeling after our delightful experience visiting Joe Soucheray and the crew for our podcast a few days ago. Even now, as we reflect, it feels like one of those rare moments in life that lingers just a little longer than expected. The kind you carry with you as you move through the next days, smiling to yourself each time it comes to mind.

If you didn’t have an opportunity to listen to it, please click here for our post with the link. It was such a joy to be there, to share our story, and to feel so welcomed by Joe and the entire team. There are no words to fully express our gratitude for the warm and wonderful responses we received afterward. Messages poured in from our loyal readers, along with countless new readers who discovered us through the podcast and took the time to explore our website.

We did our best to respond to every comment, every message, every kind word that came our way. If we missed you, please accept our sincere apologies and know how deeply we appreciate your support. Each note meant more to us than we can adequately describe. It is this connection, this shared sense of curiosity and kindness, that keeps us moving forward, writing post after post, day after day, year after year.

As it turns out, we recently marked our 5000th post since we began this journey on March 15, 2016. Click here for that first post! Seeing that number stopped us in our tracks for a moment. If we had written every single day since we started, we would have reached 5196 posts by now. But in those early years, as we were finding our footing in this new way of life, we did not always write daily. There were also times when life intervened, as it so often does. Medical issues slowed us down, long travel days left us too weary, and in those earlier times, unreliable WiFi sometimes made posting impossible. Thankfully, some of those challenges have become less frequent, but they are still part of the story.

Last night brought another special moment as we met up with Tammy, Vincent, TJ, Sarah, and Jayden at Texas Roadhouse in Shakopee, Minnesota, just a short drive from here. Walking into the restaurant, hearing familiar voices, and sharing a meal together felt like stepping into a pocket of comfort and joy. There is something so grounding about sitting around a table with people you care about, laughing, catching up, and simply being present. We had a fantastic time and are already looking forward to seeing them again on our final night here, Monday, at TJ and Sarah’s home for a barbecue.

And now, today holds yet another long-awaited visit. For the first time since we arrived, we are finally making it to Billy’s Bar and Grill in Anoka, Minnesota, for Tom’s weekly family gathering at this fun bar and restaurant. On the way, we will stop in Blaine to pick up two of Tom’s sisters, Colleen and Patty, who will ride along with us. This will be the first time we have seen Tom’s siblings and other family members since we arrived on May 16. It is hard to believe how quickly time has passed, especially considering how much of it was spent recovering from being sick with pneumonia.

Unfortunately, we will not have the opportunity to spend more time with them after today. In just four days, we will be boarding a flight to South Africa, beginning the next chapter of this journey that continues to unfold in ways we never could have imagined.

Wow. Even writing that feels surreal. We had better get packing.

We will be back with more tomorrow.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, June 5, 2016:

Last night, in Bali, as we exited the bedroom to make our cheese plate, we spotted this huge Nursery Web Spider. Although their bite may be painful, it apparently isn’t life-threatening.Tom was able to scoot it outside with the broom. No screaming. Just photos. For more photos, please click here.

Day 18…Minnesota family visit…Here’s our new, June 3, 2026, Garage Logic podcast!…

6/3 The traveling Lymans live in studio today

To listen to yesterday’s live podcast at Garage Logic, when we were invited as guests, please click the above link entitled, “6/3 The traveling Lymans live in studio today.”

To listen to the four-year-old podcast, please click here.

It could not have felt more familiar or more joyful than yesterday, when we walked back into the podcast recording studio to appear once again as guests on the widely loved Garage Logic podcast, broadcasting from the KSTP TV studios in Minneapolis/St. Paul, Minnesota. Four years had somehow slipped by since our last visit, and yet the moment we stepped inside, it felt as though no time had passed at all.

With road construction weaving through the city like an unpredictable maze, we chose to leave earlier than necessary, not wanting to risk being late for the 11:45 arrival before the noon start. There is something comforting about arriving early, about sitting for a moment and taking it all in before the energy of a live show begins. The studio, with its quiet hum before airtime, held that familiar sense of anticipation.

Joe and the crew greeted us in a way that only genuine people can. There were enthusiastic handshakes, warm hugs, and wide smiles that made us feel not just welcome, but truly remembered. It is a rare and special thing to return to a place after several years and be received with such openness. In that moment, any lingering nervousness simply faded away.

Sitting down in the studio again brought back a flood of memories from our last appearance. Back then, we had come with a different set of experiences, a different chapter of life behind us. Now, after years of travel, unexpected detours, and recent health challenges, we carried new stories, new reflections, and perhaps a deeper appreciation for simply being present.

We had come prepared, of course. Notes were tucked neatly away, ideas we thought we might share, points we believed we should remember. But as the conversation began, those notes stayed exactly where they were. Joe has a remarkable gift as an interviewer. His questions are thoughtful and engaging, unfolding naturally in a way that invites conversation rather than performance. One question led to another, each one opening the door to stories we had not even planned to tell.

The pace of the conversation felt effortless. It moved along with an ease that made time slip by unnoticed. The rest of the crew joined in seamlessly, adding their own questions and perspectives, creating a lively and welcoming exchange. There was laughter, reflection, and that comfortable sense of being part of something shared rather than something staged.

For a brief moment, we allowed ourselves to feel something we rarely claim. The way they welcomed us back, the genuine interest in our journey, and the kindness in their responses made us feel, in the most humble sense, like we mattered in that space. Not in a grand or exaggerated way, but in a simple, human way that felt deeply meaningful.

As the hour came to an end, it was hard to believe how quickly it had passed. What began as a scheduled appearance turned into an experience that felt both grounding and uplifting. Walking out of the studio, we carried with us not just the memory of the conversation, but the warmth of reconnecting with people who create something special every single day.

It is moments like these that stay with you. Not because of any spotlight, but because of the connection, the storytelling, and the shared laughter that remind us why these experiences matter so much.

We truly could not have enjoyed it more.

With only five days remaining until we depart for South Africa, we are holding these meaningful moments with family close, knowing how quickly this time will pass. Each day feels full in a way that is both comforting and a little bittersweet.

Last night, we gathered with Greg, Heather, Miles, and Madighan for dinner at Pizza Luce in Eden Prairie. Sitting together, sharing a meal and easy conversation, reminded me how much I treasure these simple times. There is something about being around family that settles you, even when so much lies ahead.

Tonight, we will meet Tammy and Vincent, along with TJ, Sarah, and Jayden, at Texas Roadhouse. It will be the first time we have all been together, which makes it feel especially meaningful. we look forward to the laughter, the catching up, and the feeling of everyone in one place.

On Friday, we will head to Billy’s Bar and Grill to spend time with Tom’s siblings and other family members. Then Saturday morning brings Heather’s daughter Megan’s graduation party, another moment to celebrate and reflect on how quickly life moves forward.

Sunday will be quieter but just as special when my dear friend Chere stops by our hotel. We will sit together in the dining room and talk as if no time has passed, picking up right where we always do.

Before long, it will be time to leave. Two days later, on Thursday, we will arrive in Marloth Park, stepping into our next adventure while carrying all of these moments with us. The packing has begun.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, June 4, 2016:

An elaborate Hindu temple in Bali, at the beach. For more photos, please click here.

Day 16…Minnesota family visit…Great time at Miles’ graduation party…

Our boy Miles. We are so proud of him.

It was a cold, rainy, and windy day, the kind that usually sends people retreating indoors, wrapping themselves in blankets, and canceling plans. But not this time. Not for Miles. Not for this milestone. Nearly one hundred invitees showed up, jackets zipped, hoods pulled tight, all determined to celebrate this moment with him. Something was comforting in that, a reminder that even the most uninviting weather cannot dampen the importance of family, connection, and shared joy.

Son Greg and granddaughter Madighan. For some odd reason, I can’t find the photos I took of Maisie Heather and Megan. We will add their photos next time we get together.

The tables were filled with an abundance of food that seemed to stretch endlessly. There were trays of meats and cheeses, salads, sandwiches, bowls of snacks, and desserts that looked as though they had been made with care and pride. Tom was in his own version of heaven. I watched him with a smile as he indulged in treats he so often avoids in our day-to-day lives. The highlight for him, without question, was the homemade strawberry shortcake prepared by our ex-daughter-in-law, Camille. Alongside that were potato chips and sweet snacks that he enjoyed without hesitation. For me, I stayed simple, picking at the meats and cheeses, content in my own way. It was hard resisting that cake, but I didn’t take a bite.

Miles and Madighan.

By the time we made our way back to the hotel close to 5:00 pm, neither of us had any desire for another bite of food. It was one of those rare and satisfying moments when you feel finished, not deprived, not overthinking, just done. We didn’t eat another morsel for the rest of the evening, and it felt perfectly fine.

A photo of Miles, me, and Greg at a Minnesota Twins ballgame a few years ago.

What made the day truly special, though, was being surrounded by family. Seeing our son Greg again always brings a sense of grounding, and it was lovely to spend time with his girlfriend, Heather, and her daughter, Megan, whose graduation party we’ll attend next Sunday. And then there were our three grandchildren, Maisie, Miles, and Madighan, each one growing into their own lives in ways that make us proud. They sat with us at times, talking easily and sharing pieces of their lives, while also moving in and out of the party’s busy energy.

This was only a small portion of the food.

One of the most fascinating touches of the day was the setup for what they called “dirty sodas.” I had heard of them in passing, but this was my first time seeing such an elaborate display. There were cans of soda lined up on ice, along with flavored syrups and cream, all ready to be mixed and customized. It seemed to be the latest trend among the younger crowd, and they embraced it with enthusiasm. We chose not to try one, content to observe from the sidelines, but it was fun to watch their excitement as they created their own combinations.

For much of the party, Miles and his friends were immersed in lawn games, laughing and competing in that easy way young people do. The adults, on the other hand, gathered in small groups, conversations weaving in and out as stories were shared and connections renewed. Every so often, Miles would pause, step away from his friends, and come over to acknowledge us. Those small gestures meant more than he probably realizes.

The strawberry shortcake was the hardest item for me to resist, but I didn’t take so much as a taste.

Madighan and Maisie spent time sitting with us, chatting along with Greg, Heather, and Megan. It struck me how responsible all three grandchildren have become. Each of them has a job, has purchased their own car, and takes care of their own insurance. There is something deeply reassuring in seeing that level of independence at their age. Their futures look bright, and that thought stayed with me long after we left.

The drinks and supplies for making “dirty sodas.”

It was also a pleasure to catch up with Camille and hear about how well she is doing. Life moves forward in unexpected ways, but there was a genuine ease in our conversation, a sense that time has softened everything into something manageable and kind.

Daughter-in-law Camille and Tom.

By the time we returned to the hotel, the contrast between the cold outdoors and the warmth inside felt especially comforting. We changed into more comfortable clothes and settled in for a quiet evening, watching Survivor, Season 50. After the damp air and hours of conversation, my coughing continued, lingering from this illness that refuses to let go fully. Being warm and still brought a sense of relief.

It had been a full day, in every sense of the word. A day of family, of small indulgences, of laughter, and of reflection. That is enough for now. We will be back.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, June 1, 2016:

Low tide at the beach on a cloudy day in Bali. For more photos, please click here.

Day 15…Minnesota family visit…Today is Miles’ graduation party!…We will be there!…

For the first time since we arrived in Minnesota fifteen days ago, we are going to see family with many more get-togethers over the upcoming week. That simple sentence carries more weight than I expected. It feels like stepping out of a long, dim tunnel into a bit of light. Today is our grandson Miles’ graduation party at Lake Waconia, a 35-minute drive, and despite everything our bodies have been through, we are going.

Yesterday, the idea of getting dressed in anything other than yoga pants, a long-sleeved T-shirt, and Tom’s thick white socks felt almost unreasonable. Those clothes have become my uniform, my cocoon during weeks of coughing, fatigue, and restless nights. But I made a small decision. I laid out my clothes last night. A simple outfit. Comfortable shoes. A few pieces of jewelry that felt like a nod to the person I was before all of this. Looking at them, I realized it might not be so hard after all.

This morning, I woke abruptly after another broken night. The kind filled with strange dreams that dissolve the moment you open your eyes, interrupted again and again by coughing fits that leave your chest aching. Still, I didn’t linger. I swung my legs out of bed with more determination than strength and decided I would move forward with purpose. I want to greet this day with something that resembles energy, even if it is borrowed.

I am aware that what I feel inside and how I appear on the outside may not fully align. For weeks now, my body has felt heavy, as though each limb requires negotiation. I have grown used to moving slowly, carefully, conserving what little energy I have. But today, I do not want to walk into Miles’ party looking like someone who has been defeated. I want to show up as his grandmother, proud, present, and there to celebrate him.

Before getting sick, I had found such joy in movement again. After months of regular exercise, I was finally walking with ease and confidence. That memory feels distant now. A month of illness has changed everything. My legs feel like lead after so much time spent resting. Pneumonia has a way of humbling you. It reduces life to the most basic act of breathing, and even that can feel like work.

I remind myself that this is temporary. Once the coughing finally fades, I will begin again. Slowly, patiently. I imagine that moment somewhere ahead, perhaps when we arrive in Marloth Park in South Africa on June 11. I picture the warmth, the open space, the sense of starting fresh. It gives me something to hold onto.

Tom is improving, which is a relief, though he is far from himself. He tires easily and often needs to nap. I can see the frustration in him, the longing to feel normal again. We both carry that same wish. To wake up without heaviness. To move through a day without calculating our energy. To be.

Today’s party begins at noon and will go until four. A manageable window, we tell ourselves. We will pace it, take breaks if needed, and listen to our bodies. By five, we should be back at the hotel, hopefully with full hearts and just enough energy left to reflect on the day.

There is something comforting in knowing that even in the middle of illness, life continues to offer moments worth showing up for. Today is one of those moments. And we are going today, as well as all the other family events we have planned this upcoming week.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, May 31, 2016:

Buffaloes were lining up for their turn at the buffalo races in Bali. For more photos, please click here.

Day 11…Minnesota family visit…still sick…still coughing…What do we do about tomorrow’s upcoming grduation ceremony?…

On Sunday, we will attend Miles’ graduation party held lakeside,

Today marks three days since that visit to Urgent Care, the one that finally gave a name to what has been settling deeper into our chests with each passing day. Pneumonia. It sounded heavy when the doctor said it, as if the word itself carried weight. In some ways, it felt like a strange relief to know what we were dealing with, but that feeling didn’t last long once we returned to the quiet of our room and faced the reality of what recovery would look like.

We had both started the antibiotics with a sense of cautious optimism. From years of experience, we’ve come to expect that familiar turning point somewhere around the 48-hour mark. That subtle shift when the body begins to cooperate again, when breathing eases, and when energy slowly returns. This time, that moment has been elusive. We wait for it, almost watching the clock, hoping each passing hour will bring relief, but the change has been far more subtle than we’d hoped.

Yes, there is some improvement. The coughing is not quite as constant as it was before. There are longer stretches of quiet now, moments when the room feels still and we can almost pretend we are on the other side of this. But when the coughing does come, it arrives with a force that reminds us we are not there yet. The intensity has softened, perhaps by twenty percent, but it still grips the chest, still leaves us catching our breath and holding onto whatever is nearby for support.

It is exhausting in a way that is difficult to explain. Not just physically, though that is certainly part of it, but emotionally as well. Each cough feels like a setback, even when we know, logically, that healing is not a straight path. We remind ourselves of that often. Healing takes time. The body works quietly, beneath the surface, even when we cannot feel it.

Far from our usual routines and comforts, we find ourselves adjusting to a slower pace, one that is not chosen but necessary. The days blend in a haze of medications, warm and cold drinks, and rest that never quite feels complete. Sleep comes in fragments, interrupted by coughing fits that pull us back into wakefulness. There is a certain loneliness in those early morning hours, when the world outside is still, and we are left listening to the sound of our own breathing.

We talk often, Tom and I, in between these stretches. Conversations that drift between concern and reassurance. Are we getting better? Shouldn’t we be feeling more improvement by now? Did we wait too long before seeking help? These questions circle our thoughts, never fully landing, but always present.

And yet, there is also gratitude woven into all of this. Gratitude for seeking care when we did. Gratitude for having the medication, even if it is taking longer than expected to do its work. Gratitude for each small sign of progress, no matter how minor it may seem.

This experience has reminded us, once again, how fragile the body can be. How quickly plans can change. How important it is to listen when something feels off, even when we are tempted to push through.

So here we are, three days in, somewhere between where we were and where we hope to be. Not fully better, not nearly as strong as we’d like, but moving, however slowly, in the right direction. And for now, that has to be enough.

Tomorrow is our grandson Miles’ graduation, a day we have been holding close in our hearts. We have not canceled yet, even as this illness lingers. However, there will be a live online broadcast we can watch from here. When I wrote to him last night, his sweet reply reminded us what matters most. He told us to keep getting better. I promised we would be at his party on Sunday at Lake Waconia, no matter what. Being outdoors will help, and with cool weather expected, we will bundle up, quietly present, grateful to share in his special moment, even if we are not quite ourselves.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, May 27, 2016

In Bali…in many ways, they’re so much like us. For more photos, please click here.

Memorial Day in US today…Day 9…Minnesota family visit…We went to Urgent Care…Here’s the diagnosis…

On this Memorial Day, we pause to reflect on the lives lost in service to our nation. May we carry their memory with gratitude and live in a way that honors their sacrifice.

Unfortunately, we are too sick to share this special holiday with our family here in Minnesota. Instead of gathering around a table filled with familiar foods and easy laughter, we find ourselves tucked away in our hotel room, moving slowly through the day, doing what we can to recover from this dreadful illness that seems to have taken hold far longer than either of us ever expected.

Memorial Day has always carried a quiet significance for us. It is not just a long weekend or the unofficial start of summer, but a time to pause and reflect, to remember those who gave everything for the lives we are fortunate to live. There is usually a sense of togetherness, whether at a backyard gathering or simply sitting side by side with loved ones. This year, that feeling is replaced with something far more subdued. Our world has shrunk to this room, to tissues and water glasses, to the sound of coughing that has become all too familiar.

After reading about the tragic and early passing of a 41-year-old race car driver due to complications from pneumonia and sepsis, something shifted in me. It was a sobering reminder of how quickly things can escalate. I had been encouraging Tom for days to go to Urgent Care, but like many of us, he hesitated. Perhaps it was stubbornness, or maybe the hope that tomorrow would bring improvement. Yesterday morning, when he woke feeling no better, he finally agreed.

Even then, I had every intention of making this appointment all about Tom. I was still weak, still coughing more than I would like, but after three long weeks, I convinced myself I must be on the verge of turning a corner. This appointment, I thought, was for Tom. He needed it more. But Tom, in his gentle and persistent way, encouraged me to be seen as well, just in case.

While he was standing at the reception desk, filling out his intake forms, I made a last-minute decision to be assessed as well. It felt almost unnecessary at the time, but it turned out to be one of those decisions that matter more than you realize in the moment.

With our similar symptoms, they brought us into the same treatment room. There was something oddly comforting about that, being side by side in this unexpected turn of events. After taking our vitals and listening carefully to our symptoms, they ordered chest X-rays for both of us. I did not expect much from mine. I thought perhaps they would confirm what I already believed, that I was on the mend.

Instead, the results came back with surprising clarity. I have pneumonia. Hearing those words caught me off guard in a way I cannot quite describe. Tom’s X-ray was more difficult to interpret due to the scar tissue from his pulmonary fibrosis, but given his symptoms, they made the decision to treat him for pneumonia as well.

Suddenly, everything felt more serious, but also, in a strange way, more hopeful. We had answers. We had a plan.

They prescribed two powerful antibiotics for each of us and sent the prescriptions to a nearby Walgreens. When we learned they would not be ready for nearly an hour, we returned to the hotel to wait. It felt like a small delay in what had already been a long journey through illness.

After calling to confirm the medications were ready, Tom set off to pick them up using the drive-through. Not long after, he was back, moving carefully but with purpose. We sat together and took our first doses, each medication with its own schedule that quickly became too much for my foggy mind to manage. Tom, ever steady, worked it out for both of us.

That night brought me something I had not experienced in weeks. Rest. True rest. My coughing eased, even if only slightly, and for the first time in what feels like forever, I slept deeply. When I woke, I noticed a subtle shift. Not a full recovery by any means, but a hint that the medication was beginning to do its work.

Tom did not fare quite as well overnight. His coughing persisted, and the night was difficult for him. Given his existing lung condition, we know his path to recovery may take longer. Even so, there is a shared sense of cautious optimism between us now.

As I sit here, still tired but slightly clearer in thought, I find myself looking ahead. I am hopeful that I will recover enough to attend Miles’s graduation on Thursday, a moment we have been looking forward to for so long. There is also his graduation party next Sunday, and Tammy’s barbecue on Saturday. These small, meaningful gatherings feel especially important now.

So here we are, on a day meant for remembrance and togetherness, finding our own quiet version of both. We are grateful we chose to seek care when we did. It was the right decision, and one that may very well have changed the course of this illness.

For now, we rest, we heal, and we hold onto the hope that in the coming days, we will step back into the world a little stronger than we feel today.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, May 25, 2016:

While shopping at the Carrefour market in Bali, I couldn’t resist stopping to admire these colorful Dragon Fruit. For more photos, please click here.

Day 6…Minnesota Family visit…The days roll into another in a blur…

We loved all the flowers that were beginning to bloom in Bali ten years ago.

As we make our way through each day and night, stomachs and chests aching from the constant coughing, we find ourselves asking the same quiet question over and over again. When will this end? It lingers in the background of everything, from the moment we wake to the long hours we lie awake listening to each other struggle through another coughing spell. There is no clear answer, only the passage of time marked by tissues, restless sleep, and the dull soreness that never quite fades.

It has been twenty-two days for me now. That number feels heavy, as if it should come with some sense of progress or relief. Instead, I am stuck in this strange in-between place. I am no longer at my worst, yet nowhere near well. Tom is only nine days in, and I can already see the road stretching out ahead of him. If this virus follows the same path it has taken with me, he still has a long way to go to reach this point, this frustrating plateau where improvement is so slow it is almost invisible.

The coughing is what wears us down the most. It is constant and unproductive, offering no sense of release or closure. Each cough feels like it should lead to something, some clearing or easing, but it never does. Instead, it leaves behind a sharp ache in the chest and a lingering irritation that builds until the next round begins. There is no pattern to it, not predictable in a way we can brace ourselves for. It simply comes, again and again, day and night.

Yesterday, we read that a cough from RSV can linger for as long as eight weeks. Eight weeks. The number felt almost impossible when we first saw it, yet here we are, already deep into that timeline. If that estimate holds, we will still be coughing when we arrive in Marloth Park in twenty days. That thought sits uneasily with me. I try not to dwell on it, but it is hard to ignore the reality of what our bodies are telling us.

I do not like to be negative, but there is a difference between negativity and honesty. We have learned over the years that acknowledging what is in front of us, even when it is uncomfortable, is often the only way to move through it. I do not believe I am still contagious, though there is no absolute certainty. Tom’s case is even more uncertain. His symptoms did not begin until over two weeks after mine, which leaves us questioning everything we thought we understood about the timeline.

Out of an abundance of caution, he has chosen to stay away from family. It is not an easy decision, especially when we are so close, but it feels like the responsible one. Instead, our days pass, one rolling into another. He naps on and off, his body clearly asking for more rest than usual. I find myself dozing here and there as well, though never deeply enough to feel fully restored. Sleep comes in fragments, interrupted by coughing and the discomfort that follows.

On Sunday night, I plan to go out with my son, Greg, to celebrate his girlfriend Heather’s birthday. He is picking me up at seven to take me to her party, about a half-hour drive from here. Even writing that feels like a small step forward. I know I will have to push myself. The idea of being out late, of making conversation, and being present feels daunting in my current state. Still, I also know that I need to begin reentering the world, however slowly.

There is a delicate balance between listening to our bodies and not allowing this illness to define our days completely. I am not sure I will get it right, but I am willing to try. More than anything, I look forward to the day when this is behind us, when the coughing fades into memory, and we can once again move through our days without this constant weight.

For now, we wait, we rest, and we hope.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, May 22, 2016

This close-up of my dinner in Bali, made by the two Ketuts, a few nights ago, appears to show there’s a lot of chicken on this plate. But once I dig in, there are only a few good bites on each leg and thigh section. Tom eats the two breasts, which are a little meatier, but the dark meat, which I prefer, is sparse because the chickens are locally raised and free-range. For more photos, please click here.

Day 1…Minnesota family visit…Settling in…

Today, the staff is bringing us another chair, so we can sit at this large desk for dining.

The final stretch from Tea, South Dakota, to Eden Prairie, Minnesota, felt longer than it should have, not in miles but in the way our bodies carried the weight of the past few days. Hours on the road can feel manageable at the beginning of a trip, but by this point, we were both worn down in ways that are hard to ignore. We had settled into a pattern of only stopping when necessary, quick breaks for petrol and restrooms, just enough time to step out of the car, stretch our legs, and remind ourselves what it felt like to stand upright.

Even with those small pauses, the discomfort lingered. My body seemed to protest the most. Sitting had become a challenge, and by the last hour, I found myself shifting constantly, trying to find a position that offered even a little relief. Tom, on the other hand, carried his discomfort differently, though I could see it in the way he moved. His ribs were still tender from days of coughing, each breath a reminder that he had a way to go before he recovered.

He is getting better, which is something we both hold onto. Still, he is not himself. There is a heaviness to him, a fatigue that does not lift, paired with that deep, lingering congestion that seems to come with RSV. It is the kind of illness that takes its time, requiring patience whether you are ready to give it or not. I recognize it because I was there not long ago, moving through the same exhaustion, the same slow climb back to feeling normal.

Despite it all, we are in good spirits. There is comfort in knowing we are on the mend, that each day brings a little more energy, a little less discomfort. We have no sense that medical care is needed, just time, rest, and the willingness to let our bodies recover at their own pace. What we are most looking forward to now is seeing our family, though even that comes with a layer of caution. I have been sick for over two weeks and feel confident I am no longer contagious, but Tom will need a few more days. It is the responsible choice, even if it requires a bit more patience.

By the time we pulled into the hotel, the need to stop was immediate. There is a certain urgency that comes after hours on the road, when all you want is a door to close behind you and a moment to exhale. Even that simple process tested us slightly. The keys to our first-floor room refused to cooperate, leaving us standing in the hallway, tired and waiting. The front desk staff handled it quickly, calling maintenance, and before long, the issue was resolved.

The man living area in the hotel, works fine for us.

When we finally stepped inside, the room felt familiar in the best possible way. Without hesitation, I made a quick dash to the spacious bathroom, grateful for the comfort of something so ordinary and so necessary. It is funny how travel reshapes your appreciation for the smallest things.

The staff, recognizing the inconvenience, added 5,000 Marriott Bonvoy points to our account, a gesture we genuinely appreciated. It was a simple act, but one that made us feel cared for, a reminder that even small disruptions can be softened by kindness.

Once settled, we moved into our usual routine. Bags opened, clothes put away, everything finding its place. Within forty-five minutes, we had transformed the space into something that felt, temporarily, like home. There is satisfaction in that process, in creating order after a day that has felt long and somewhat taxing.

A few hours later, neither of us had the energy to go out, so we turned to what has become an easy solution. We ordered dinner through Grubhub, choosing comfort over effort. I went with steamed chicken and vegetables, and shrimp egg foo yong, something light but satisfying. Tom chose his usual favorite, sweet and sour pork, a dish that always seems to bring him a bit of comfort. The portions were generous enough to carry us through another meal, which feels like a small victory.

We intentionally ordered enough for two nights, giving ourselves permission to rest tomorrow without having to think about cooking. Still, I can already feel the balance shifting. While the convenience of delivery is undeniable, the cost adds up quickly. Even with a fee-free service through Amazon Prime, dinner for two on Grubhub comes close to US$ 50 per day. Dining out would easily double that.

Today, I will take some time to put together a small grocery order, something simple that allows us to cook on the evenings when we are not with family. It feels like the right middle ground, a way to care for ourselves while also being mindful.

Before settling in for the night, we reached out to the family to let them know we had arrived safely. There is comfort in that message, in knowing that soon, when the timing is right, we will be together again. For now, rest is what we need most.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, May 17, 2016:

In Bali, Gede, our houseman, explained that this outdoor stand is for church donations, comparable to a bake sale. Passersby purchase products to be donated to the church for low-income families. For more photos, please click here.

Part 2…Emergency evacuation off a cruise ship…What are the costs?…

Emergency evacuation helicopter approaching the ship to pick up the ailing passenger. See the post here.

In yesterday’s post, we covered the process of being airlifted off a cruise ship in the event of a medical emergency. Today, we’re covering the average costs of such an event.

The cost of a medical evacuation from a cruise ship can vary widely depending on several factors. Still, it is typically costly and is not usually covered by standard health insurance. Here’s a breakdown:

Typical Cost of Medical Evacuation from a Cruise Ship
Scenario Estimated Cost (USD)
Ship-to-shore via small boat $5,000 – $20,000
Helicopter airlift (within U.S.) $20,000 – $50,000+
International helicopter airlift $40,000 – $100,000+
Air ambulance to home country (ICU) $50,000 – $200,000+

Factors That Influence the Cost
Location of the ship (remote ocean = more expensive)

Type of evacuation (boat vs. helicopter vs. jet)

Distance to nearest hospital or mainland

Level of medical care needed (ICU setup, doctor/nurse escort)

Whether multiple transfers are required

Local laws and coordination with foreign emergency services

Travel Insurance Is Essential
Most cruise lines and governments strongly recommend or require travel insurance with medical evacuation coverage for this reason. Good policies usually cover:

Evacuation costs

Medical care abroad

Repatriation to your home country

Travel with a companion or family member

A policy with $250,000+ in emergency medical evacuation coverage is often recommended for cruise travelers.

Real-Life Examples
A traveler airlifted from a Caribbean cruise to Miami due to a heart attack reportedly incurred $85,000 in helicopter and hospital bills.

A couple without insurance was airlifted from the Pacific and had to raise over $180,000 online to cover costs.

Purchasing adequate travel insurance can put travelers’ minds at ease. Additionally, it is advisable to check with your medical professionals regarding the safety of embarking on a cruise with your current medical condition, especially when traveling outside your home country.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, June 11, 2015:

View of the Sydney Opera House from the ship at 6:30 am this morning. It’s hard to believe we’re here on our fifth continent! For more photos, please click here.