Good day, Everyone!…We’re back…

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Most shoppers in Hawaii prefer to buy shelled macadamia nuts that are roasted and salted.

It’s been an excellent past 24 hours. We were busy doing some tasks in the hotel room, talking on the phone with family and friends, and continuing my workout regime. Today, it’s been two months since we left Minnesota to drive to Cleveland. That seems like so long ago.

We enjoyed our second night of “takeaway food,” which was Asian beef salad for me and Chinese sweet and sour pork with rice for Tom. Tom had Costco pumpkin pie for dessert, and I had a slice of homemade keto cream cheese pie. After dinner at 8:00 pm, we watched a disappointing Minnesota Vikings football game and went off for bed when it ended around 11:00 pm.

For some reason, I awoke at 3:00 am and couldn’t get back to sleep until after 5:30. Instead, I read articles on my phone after trying to doze off with no luck. Finally, around 6:00 am, I drifted off and slept until 9:00 am. I feel good today after a total good number of hours of sleep overall.

Today is a quiet day. Once I finish today’s post, I go to the fitness center to work out. Hopefully, the housekeepers will do our scheduled deep clean today. However, they often don’t do it on the expected day, Friday, because they say they are too busy. Getting a daily refresh has reduced the issues we were having. They come at different times each day, but we are used to it and don’t feel as if we’re sitting around waiting for them.

Yesterday, in My Chart, the company that reviewed the two-week heart rate monitor finally posted the results of my tests. There were dozens of comments about heart rhythm issues, including Paroxysmal AFib, PVCs, AV block, P wave morphology, Supraventricular Tachycardia, and more. I am waiting to hear from the electrophysiologist (a cardiac cardiologist specializing in heart rhythm issues) to discuss my upcoming heart procedures in February.

I’d hoped the results would be better and we could leave here earlier than February. However, after seeing the test results, I imagine we will have to stay for the additional tests and the procedures in February. Thus, we have four more months to go before we can leave.

Working out is not easy, and it’s challenging to stay motivated when it’s so difficult. For this very reason, I must continue to try each day. Some days are more complex than others, but I make a point of increasing the difficulty daily in small increments to ensure I am making progress.

The satisfaction I feel after working out each day is indescribable. Working out, especially when desperately needed, boosts one’s confidence in one’s health and well-being if not life in general. Although I am upbeat and optimistic, this physical boost is just what I need right now. That alone motivates me to go downstairs to the fitness center each day.

It’s getting cool in Cleveland. We have yet to turn on the heat in our room, but surely, in weeks to come, it will be necessary. We don’t go outside much and only have lightweight jackets for the upcoming times we’ll be heading out.

That’s all I have today, folks.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, October 25, 2014:

This is a view from an overlook along the highway as we drove to Lahaina, destroyed by a horrific fire a few years ago. For more photos, please click here.

Hopeful…

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The dancers’ costumes on Royal Caribbean’s Brilliance of the Seas were elaborate for the upcoming evening’s entertainment.

This morning, for the first time in almost two months, I walked to the end of the corridor and back without getting out of breath. My legs, from lack of mobility and residual effects from the toxic drug I was taking for almost a year, are unsteady and fragile. Since today is the day I have been cleared to start walking after last Friday’s angiogram, as soon as we returned to our room after breakfast, I got up from the wheelchair and embarked on the walk.

After months of limited mobility, my legs felt weak, but this time, it was not painful, as had been the case on that drug that caused me life-threatening side effects. Little did I know, regardless of how much research I did. It was the insight of the highly trained and experienced doctors at the Cleveland Clinic that determined the reason for my breathing issues and inability to walk was caused by the drug, more so than the condition of my cardiovascular disease.

After last Friday’s angiogram, which indicated I have ongoing cardiovascular disease with one artery that is 100% blocked and not fixable. However, surgery is not indicated at this time. As for the Afib and the PVCs, it’s entirely under control with the new drug, a drug that costs over $800 a month. (As soon as I get the OK from the doctor to continue the drug, I will order it from the Canadian pharmacy for a considerably lower price).

What are PVCs? See below as described by the Cleveland Clinic at this site:

“Overview
Ventricular arrhythmias are abnormal heart rhythms that originate in the bottom chambers of the heart, called the ventricles. They can occur as a result of damage to the heart muscle from a heart attack or cardiomyopathy or in patients with hearts that seem structurally normal.

Premature ventricular contractions (PVCs) are premature beats originating in the lower chambers that may be bothersome to patients, causing symptoms such as palpitations or shortness of breath. Over time, frequent PVCs can, in some patients, cause changes in heart function.

Ventricular Tachycardia – a sustained pattern of premature ventricular contractions, which can be life-threatening.
Ventricular Fibrillation – a fast, disorganized beating of the ventricles, which quickly leads to sudden death.”

If this drug continues to control my heart rhythm, even considering its high risks, I prefer to take those risks rather than live a life limited by feeling unwell from abnormal heart rhythms.

If the doctor gives me a “good to go” confirmation on my upcoming appointment on September 27, we will excitedly and quickly plan to continue our travels. We have some ideas on what we’d like to do between October and March or April before we return to South Africa. We will share those ideas once we know more.

No, my heart health journey isn’t over. I am going to have to live with the realities of heart disease. But, many people go on to live rich and fulfilling lives with conditions such as mine. At this point, at 76 years of age, I strive for” quality of life” for whatever time I have left to explore this world with the man who’s lovingly been at my side all along.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, September 13, 2014:

Tom is caught off guard while chatting with another passenger on a cruise. We can’t wait to be cruising once again. For more photos, please click here.

Part 2…Suggestions from readers…Four days and counting…

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There is a massive field of wildflowers on the grounds of Highclere Castle. We can only imagine how beautiful this would be in full bloom in spring. See the front view of the castle in the “ten years ago photo”  below.

As a continuation of yesterday’s posts, our dear readers and long-time cruise friends, Judy and Gary, sent some suggestions on topics for future posts. Yesterday, we covered the first item, “favorite cruise lines.” See that post here.

Here are a few topics to consider;
Favorite cruise lines
Favorite ports
Best and worst cruise ship excursion you’ve taken
Best and worst meal you’ve cooked
Favorite and least favorite country you’ve visited
Favorite and least favorite city you’ve visited

Today, we’ll discuss the second point on Judy and Gary’s suggested list, “favorite cruise ports.

Regarding the top cruise ports in the world, several destinations come to mind for their unique charm, cultural significance, and breathtaking landscapes. Here’s a list of some of the best cruise ports globally that are worth visiting:

  1. Barcelona, Spain – Known for its stunning architecture, vibrant nightlife, and rich history, Barcelona is a key Mediterranean cruise port. Visitors can explore Gaudí’s masterpieces like the Sagrada Familia and stroll through the Gothic Quarter.
  2. Sydney, Australia – This iconic port offers a dramatic backdrop with the Sydney Opera House and Harbour Bridge. Beyond the city, you can explore the Blue Mountains or relax at Bondi Beach. This is our favorite port.
  3. Santorini, Greece – Famed for its whitewashed buildings and stunning sunsets, Santorini is a favorite stop on cruises through the Greek Isles. The island’s volcanic history and crystal-clear waters make it a must-visit.
  4. Alaska, USA – Cruising through Alaska is like stepping into a nature documentary, with its towering glaciers, majestic mountains, and abundant wildlife. Popular ports include Juneau, Ketchikan, and Skagway, all of which we found fascinating.
  5. New Zealand – With ports like Auckland and Wellington, New Zealand offers diverse landscapes ranging from geothermal wonders to serene fjords. It’s a paradise for adventure seekers and nature lovers alike. We loved this port!
  6. Cozumel, Mexico – This port is a gateway to the rich history of the Mayan civilization, with ruins like Chichén Itzá nearby. It’s also a haven for diving and snorkeling in its crystal-clear waters. We were there in the early part of our travels.
  7. Bimini, Bahamas – Bimini is a tropical paradise perfect for beach lovers. Known for its luxury beach clubs and vibrant marine life, it offers a laid-back yet luxurious experience.
  8. Piraeus (Athens), Greece – As the gateway to Athens, this port is steeped in ancient history. Visitors can explore the Acropolis and other historical sites, making it a top destination for history enthusiasts.
  9. Malaga, Spain – This port in southern Spain offers access to the Andalusian region, with its beautiful beaches, historic sites like the Alhambra, and vibrant culture.
  10. Portsmouth, UK – Less famous than London but rich in maritime history, Portsmouth offers a charming mix of old and new, with historical docks and modern attractions. We also found Harwich, UK, to be a lovely port.

These ports offer a mix of natural beauty, cultural experiences, and historical significance, making them some of the top cruise destinations in the world. Whether you’re looking for adventure, relaxation, or cultural immersion, each has something unique

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, August 21, 2014:

We held our breath as we approached Highclere Castle, home of the famed BBC Downton Abbey TV series. No interior photos were allowed. For more photos, please click here.

Slight change on our site…Conquering the “fear of flying?”…

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An array of pocket watches were on display at Le Louvre in Paris.

A long-term reader wrote yesterday that our dark gray font was hard to read. After reviewing past posts, I agreed with the reader and contacted our web people. By this morning, our font had been changed to a regular shade of black. I wrote back to our dear reader, Linda, to thank her for bringing this to my attention. In the past, I took our font for granted and never questioned it. Hopefully, all of you will find this darker font easier to read.

Also, this morning, I stumbled across an article about the “fear of flying,” thinking we’re long overdue on addressing this critical issue that plagues many travelers and is often ignored when it may bespeak a lack of travel experience, self-control, and self-confidence. Many of us prefer not to appear so vulnerable by admitting to such a perceived “flaw” in our travel experience.

I used to believe I could outgrow fear, like an old pair of shoes. But when it came to flying, that fear clung to me like a stubborn shadow, refusing to fade no matter how many flights I experienced. For years, the thought of being thousands of feet in the air, suspended in a metal tube, sent my heart racing and my palms sweating. Yet, as someone who’s been living a life in motion for the past 12 years, I knew that conquering this fear was essential to continue exploring the world. Here’s how I began to embrace the skies and leave that fear behind.

It’s estimated up to 40% of people have some fear of flying or aviophobia.

The first step in conquering my fear of flying was understanding it. I realized that my fear wasn’t really about flying itself but rather the loss of control it represented. I could drive a car, sail a boat, even navigate the chaos of crowded city streets, but once the airplane doors closed and the engines roared to life, I felt utterly helpless. Acknowledging this was pivotal; I had to accept that control was an illusion, both on the ground and in the sky. This understanding didn’t eradicate my fear but gave me a framework to start dismantling it.

I began by educating myself. Knowledge, as they say, is power, and in this case, it was also a balm for my anxiety. I devoured articles and watched documentaries about flight mechanics, the rigorous training pilots undergo, and the safety measures in place. I learned that turbulence, which once felt like the beginning of the end, is a natural part of flying, no more dangerous than driving over a bumpy road. The more I understood the science and safety behind flying, the less mysterious and threatening it seemed.

Mindfulness became another powerful tool in my journey. I started practicing deep breathing techniques before and during flights, focusing on the rhythm of my breath rather than the what-ifs swirling in my mind. Visualization also played a crucial role—I would close my eyes and picture myself calmly boarding the plane, enjoying the journey, and arriving at my destination with a sense of accomplishment. These mental exercises didn’t just distract me; they helped rewire my brain to associate flying with positive outcomes instead of fear.

However, the real test came when it was time to step onto the plane. I tried to fly more often, not shying away from opportunities. Each flight was a chance to build confidence. I started with short domestic flights and gradually worked my way up to longer international journeys. I celebrated small victories along the way—the moment I realized I was more excited than anxious before a flight, or the first time I looked out of the window during takeoff and felt awe instead of dread.

What surprised me most about this journey was how it paralleled many other aspects of my life. Conquering the fear of flying wasn’t just about being able to board a plane without panic; it was about learning to trust the process, to let go of control, and to embrace uncertainty. These lessons learned 35,000 feet above the ground have grounded me in ways I never expected.

When I fly, I no longer feel like I’m battling fear. Instead, I feel a sense of calm and even a bit of pride. Every flight reminds me of how far I’ve come—in miles traveled and personal growth. Once a source of anxiety, the sky has become a place of possibility. And with every journey, I’m reminded that the most significant adventures often begin with a single step—or, in this case, a boarding pass.

Displaying my fear while on a flight was a fear unto itself. After many years, my dear friend Carol, a retired captain with Delta Airlines who worked for Republic Airlines when I met her in the 1980s, knew I was uncomfortable flying. Knowing this, she agreed to fly with me on a shared flight to a mutual end location. The following interaction on a flight finally freed me of my fear of flying.

While we flew together, Carol explained every sound and change occurring during the flight, which incredibly put my mind at ease. As Tom and I began traveling the world, flying on countless flights, some as long as 17 hours across the ocean, I found myself more at ease. It was only during takeoff and landing and severe turbulence that I’ve become uncomfortable since. Overall, my fear has been combatted.

We hope you can find ways to reduce your fear of flying if this has been an issue for you. If not, good for you! Continue to enjoy traveling wherever you may choose to go.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, August 12, 2014:

In taking this photo of the courtyard from a window at Le Louvre in Paris. I later thought it looked like a painting. For more photos, please click here.

Thanks for all the love and support…It’s amazing!…Staying calm in highly charged situations…

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One of many sculpted bridges in Paris.

First, I’d like to thank our readers who’ve posted comments and sent emails wishing us well regarding my current medical issues. It’s amazing that we don’t have “haters” sending our disheartening messages to make matters worse.

Many of us who post online are subject to hateful comments, which it’s hard to ignore. In this day and age, children, particularly, are bombarded with bullying cements from haters, literally ruining the lives of these young souls and, in some cases, contributing to suicide.

As adults, we’re better able to handle the vitriol, but we aren’t exempt from the emotional stress and damage caused by such hatefulness. Who are these people who feel they have a right to wreak havoc in the lives of those who choose to provide information online, whether or not the general public agrees with their viewpoint?

There is always a way to disagree and diplomatically share opposing opinions politely. Occasionally, we encounter an individual who is angry and unable/unwilling to control themselves when out and about. I often wonder what made them angry in their lives, whether they were in traffic or at the checkout line at the market.

In conducting research, I encountered the following suggestions on how all of us can maintain a sense of calm and respect when dealing with difficult situations.

Occasionally, I overreact when trying to make a point with Tom. Reading the following is definitely a reminder that I can do much better in making my position known.

Having a diplomatic conversation/encounter involves several vital principles and techniques. Here are some tips to help you conduct a diplomatic conversation:

1. Be Respectful and Polite:

  • Use courteous language and respect the other person’s opinions and feelings.
  • Avoid interrupting and listen actively.

2. Stay Calm and Composed:

  • Maintain a calm demeanor even if the conversation becomes tense or emotional.
  • Take deep breaths and pause if needed to collect your thoughts.

3. Use Neutral Language:

  • Avoid using accusatory or confrontational language.
  • Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements (e.g., “I feel concerned about…” instead of “You always…”).

4. Be Clear and Concise:

  • Express your points clearly and directly without being vague or overly wordy.
  • Stick to the main topic and avoid bringing up unrelated issues.

5. Show Empathy and Understanding:

  • Acknowledge the other person’s perspective and show that you understand their concerns.
  • Validate their feelings even if you disagree with their viewpoint.

6. Seek Common Ground:

  • Look for areas of agreement and build on them to create a collaborative atmosphere.
  • Focus on shared goals and interests.

7. Avoid Emotional Triggers:

  • Be mindful of words or topics that might trigger a strong emotional response.
  • If the conversation becomes heated, suggest taking a break and revisiting the topic later.

8. Practice Active Listening:

  • Show that you are listening by nodding, maintaining eye contact, and providing feedback.
  • Summarize or paraphrase what the other person has said to ensure understanding.

9. Be Open to Compromise:

  • Be willing to adjust your stance and find a middle ground.
  • Understand that a diplomatic conversation often involves give-and-take.

10. End on a Positive Note:

  • Conclude the conversation with a summary of the main points and agreed-upon actions.
  • Express appreciation for the discussion and the other person’s willingness to engage.

Example Phrases:

  • “I understand your point of view…”
  • “Let’s find a solution that works for both of us…”
  • “I appreciate your perspective on this…”

Practical Steps:

  • Preparation: Before the conversation, outline your main points and anticipate possible counterarguments.
  • Context: Choose an appropriate time and place for the conversation to ensure privacy and minimize interruptions.
  • Follow-up: After the conversation, follow up with any agreed-upon actions and maintain open lines of communication.

By practicing these techniques, you can improve your ability to have diplomatic conversations and build better relationships in both personal and professional contexts.

The above points can easily be utilized in dealing with loved ones during challenging conversations. We’re never too old to learn new ways of communication.

In any case, thank you for all the positive comments. I try to answer each one, but there are too many, which makes us all the more grateful for our kind and thoughtful readers. We are indeed blessed.

Be well

Photo from ten years ago today, August 7, 2014:

This is my favorite place in the gardens of Versailles. For more photos, please click here.

Amazing solution for Tom for a year’s long issue…

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Rechargeable batteries are required for these hearing aids, which can be easily recharged in the provided case. They come with a USB plug that easily plugs into the provided adapter, which plugs into any US outlet. For travel, one can use their usual device adapters. Also, the grey case is for charging while traveling. Two instruction booklets are included.

No words can express how excited we were after Tom picked up his hearing aids from Costco and found them working so well. He decided to go with the Philips brand and was thrilled. When he returned from Costco, I couldn’t tell he was wearing them—they are entirely invisible!

They couldn’t be better with the app on his phone to adjust them and the ability to hear incoming and outgoing phone calls. This makes a world of difference to him. But the benefits for me are indescribable. Finally, we can have a conversation without him saying, “What? What? What?”

Often, I’d be in another room and tell or ask him something, and invariably, he’d say, “I can’t hear you!”

You’d think I would have learned and stopped trying to talk to him from another room, but over the years, as his hearing worsened, I didn’t learn. It was frustrating for both of us. General chit-chat was severely impacted when I finally kept my thoughts to myself. Not that he prefers to hear every thought that pops into my mind! I will be considerate and not over-talk.

Many people, especially seniors, have hearing loss for various reasons. Tom’s case was hereditary, with many family members wearing hearing aids at young ages. Still, it was mainly due to working for 42½ years on the railroad with constant blaring noises, including the whistle on the locomotive, the steady sound of the diesel motor, and retarders used to slow down the train cars, often earsplitting. Nothing was soundproofed.

When Tom worked on the railroad, ear protection wasn’t required until the late 90s. By then, the damage had been done. Here are some facts about hearing aids.

The hearing aid package is in a sturdy box that he will save for future reference.

Hearing aids are essential devices for individuals with hearing impairments. Here are some key statistics and information about hearing aids:

  1. Prevalence of Hearing Loss:
    • Approximately 15% of American adults (37.5 million) aged 18 and over report some trouble hearing.
    • About 2-3 out of every 1,000 children in the U.S. are born with a detectable level of hearing loss in one or both ears.
  2. Hearing Aid Usage:
    • Around 28.8 million U.S. adults could benefit from using hearing aids.
    • Despite this, only about 30% of adults aged 70 and older who could benefit from hearing aids have ever used them.
    • Among adults aged 20 to 69, the percentage drops to about 16%.
  3. Technology and Types:
    • Hearing aids come in various types, including Behind-the-Ear (BTE), In-the-Ear (ITE), and In-the-Canal (ITC) models.
    • Modern hearing aids use digital technology to process sound, which allows for more precise amplification and noise reduction.
  4. Market and Costs:
    • The global hearing aids market size was valued at USD 9.5 billion in 2021 and is expected to grow significantly in the coming years.
    • Hearing aids can be expensive, ranging from $1,000 to $6,000 per device. However, the introduction of over-the-counter (OTC) hearing aids is expected to make them more affordable and accessible.
  5. User Satisfaction:
    • User satisfaction with hearing aids is generally high, and many users report improved communication and quality of life.
    • Factors contributing to satisfaction include the degree of hearing loss, the quality of the hearing aid fitting, and ongoing support from audiologists.
  6. Barriers to Adopting the Use of Hearing Aids:
    • Common barriers to hearing aid adoption include the high cost, social stigma, and a lack of awareness about the benefits and advancements in hearing aid technology.

These statistics highlight the importance of hearing aids for those with hearing impairments and the need for increased accessibility and awareness.

As for the process Tom went through to be fitted for hearing aids at Costco, which may differ from other facilities:

  1.  Make an appointment online or over the phone at your local Costco store.
  2.  During the month before the appointment, have your ears checked for wax build-up at Costco’s hearing aid department. No appointment is necessary.
  3. Return to the store for your scheduled appointment for a hearing test, fitting, and selection of brand and style. As shown above, Tom selected the Philips brand for $100 less than the other. However, he didn’t choose it for the lower cost; instead, he chose it for its ability to be hidden in and behind the ear. At this point, you’ll pay for the hearing aids in full, which will be approximately $1600. We used Costco shop cards and coupons for this price, saving about $200.
  4. Return after a new appointment is made for the final fitting, instructions, and app instructions. Bring your phone so the app can be installed and activated on your smartphone.
  5. Return a few weeks later for a final check to ensure everything works well.

All of the above appointments are included in the total cost. Tom was delighted with the service and the process, and now, much to his delight, he can listen to his podcasts and the streamed shows without using a portable Bluetooth speaker. Plus, conversations with family members and friends will be easy to hear going forward.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, August 6, 2014:

Mardi Gras costumes from centuries ago on a visit to Musee de Quai Branly, in Paris, built in 2006, an architecturally exciting museum with a wealth of treasures from around the world. For more photos, please click here.

No road trip for me!…

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A scene from the Musee d’Orsay, in Paris.

Tomorrow, after talking to a doctor at the Cleveland Clinic, if it’s safe for me to continue here with these breathing issues, we’ll decide how to get me there at the end of the month. Right now, I feel like it would be impossible for me to go on a road trip. Won’t I sit in the car for two days for the 750-mile journey?

The answer is yes and no. Sitting in the car will be okay, but I’m most concerned about getting in and out of the car at roadside stops for restroom breaks and walking to and from a hotel, which I’ll face when we get to Cleveland anyway. It’s usually a long walk from the car to the restroom, which would be impossible. I can’t go to the bathroom here in the hotel room without getting out of breath.

I just looked it up, and the hotel at Cleveland Clinic has wheelchair assistance and wheelchairs for guests. You may say, why don’t we get a wheelchair now? However, I don’t plan to go anywhere if possible. Our room is too small to maneuver a wheelchair around. I’ll arrange for a wheelchair at the airport when I fly out, which will take me to my seat since I doubt I can walk down the aisle to my seat.

Fortunately, I can stand quietly in the kitchen and chop and dice ingredients for dinner. Tom takes everything out and back into the refrigerator while I prepare simple meals, some of which I can do while seated at the kitchen table. Plus, Tom does the cooking, which helps a lot.

Here’s a description of difficulty breathing due to valve regurgitation:

Difficulty breathing, or dyspnea, can be a symptom associated with valve regurgitation. Valve regurgitation, also known as valve insufficiency, occurs when one of the heart’s valves does not close properly, causing blood to flow backward instead of moving through the heart and to the rest of the body. This can affect the efficiency of the heart’s function and lead to various symptoms, including:

  1. Shortness of breath (dyspnea): Especially during physical activity or when lying flat.
  2. Fatigue: Due to reduced oxygenated blood being circulated.
  3. Swelling (edema): In the legs, ankles, or abdomen.
  4. Palpitations: Irregular heartbeats or a sensation of the heart skipping beats.
  5. Chest pain: Though less common, it can occur in severe cases.

I have symptoms #1, #3, and #4. Fortunately, I don’t have chest pain. My heart rate and blood pressure are normal if I stay seated or lying down. As soon as I start moving, they both increase significantly.

The severity of symptoms can vary depending on which valve is affected (mitral, aortic, tricuspid, or pulmonary) and the extent of the regurgitation.

If you’re experiencing difficulty breathing and suspect it might be related to valve regurgitation, it’s crucial to consult a healthcare provider for a thorough evaluation. They may perform diagnostic tests such as echocardiography, electrocardiograms (EKG), or other imaging studies to assess the function of your heart valves and determine the appropriate treatment plan.

There’s the latest, dear readers. We’ll keep you updated.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, August 4, 2014:

The massive courtyard of the Musee de l’Armee des Invalides was used as a staging area during times of war. For more photos, please click here.

The joys of friendship can’t be matched…

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My dear friend Lisa for the past 36 years.

I had such fun with my dear friend Lisa at lunch yesterday that I forgot to take a photo of the two of us. Instead, I used the above photo she took in the restaurant parking lot. As I often do without a thought, I took photos of our delicious meals at Jimmy’s Kitchen in Minnetonka, my favorite restaurant at the moment, but failed to take photos of the humans. Lisa and I became friends in 1988, and over the past 36 years, we’ve easily stayed in touch through many life changes.

Last summer, when we were in Florida, staying at The Villages, she and her friend Vicki joined Tom and me for dinner in one of the popular village squares. We had a great time then, but there was something special about just the two of us having a 3½ hour “girl’s lunch.”

It isn’t often that I have an opportunity to enjoy old or new friends on my own, no offense intended to my dear Tom. Conversation can be different and more vulnerable when in the presence of girlfriends on my own. I easily recall all those delightful lunches with my girlfriends in Marloth Park at Stoep Cafe. Gosh, I miss those days.

Friendships are essential to life, providing emotional support, companionship, and a sense of belonging. Throughout our lives, friendships can influence our happiness, health, and overall well-being. The value of friendships extends beyond the social sphere, impacting our mental and physical health, personal development, and even our longevity.

One of the most significant values of friendships is the emotional support they offer. Friends provide a safe space for expressing feelings, sharing experiences, and seeking advice. According to psychologists, friendships help individuals navigate life’s challenges by offering emotional resilience and reducing feelings of isolation. Having close friends can buffer against the negative effects of stress and improve our overall sense of well-being.

Friends also play a critical role in shaping our identities and self-esteem. Positive feedback and validation from friends reinforce self-worth and confidence. Furthermore, friendships encourage personal growth by exposing individuals to diverse perspectives and experiences.

The benefits of friendships extend to physical health as well. Research has shown that strong social connections can lead to better health outcomes and increased longevity. A study conducted by researchers at Brigham Young University and the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill revealed that individuals with strong social ties had a 50% higher survival rate than those with weaker social connections. This effect is comparable to the benefits of quitting smoking or regular physical activity.

Lisa enjoyed her walleye and vegetables.

Friendships can also contribute to healthier lifestyles. Friends often engage in shared activities such as exercising, cooking healthy meals, or participating in sports, which promote physical health. Additionally, friends can offer encouragement and accountability, making it easier to maintain healthy habits and make positive lifestyle changes.

Friendships play a crucial role in personal development and growth. Through interactions with friends, we can learn important social skills such as communication, conflict resolution, and cooperation. These skills are essential not only for personal relationships but also for professional success.

Friends also serve as role models and sources of inspiration. Observing their achievements and qualities can motivate us to set higher goals and strive for self-improvement. The support and encouragement from friends can boost confidence and help overcome obstacles, leading to personal growth and success.

Moreover, friendships provide opportunities for new experiences and adventures. Friends often introduce each other to new hobbies, interests, and cultures, broadening horizons and enriching lives. These shared experiences create lasting memories and strengthen bonds, contributing to a sense of fulfillment and happiness.

The value of friendships extends beyond individual benefits, impacting society and culture as a whole. Friendships promote social cohesion and community engagement. Strong social networks create supportive communities where individuals look out for one another, fostering a sense of belonging and mutual aid.

Friendships can bridge cultural and social divides in diverse societies, promoting understanding and tolerance. By forming friendships with individuals from different backgrounds, people can challenge stereotypes and prejudices, leading to more inclusive and harmonious communities. According to sociologist Dr. Robert Putnam, social networks, including friendships, play a vital role in building social capital, which is essential for the functioning of democratic societies.

My lunch of seared tuna at Jimmy’s.

While friendships have numerous benefits, maintaining them requires effort and commitment. Life transitions such as moving, changing jobs, or starting a family can strain friendships. Effective communication, mutual respect, and understanding are crucial for sustaining long-term friendships. Making time for friends, showing appreciation, and addressing conflicts constructively is also important.

In the digital age, social media and technology have transformed the way we form and maintain friendships. While these tools can help stay connected, they also present challenges such as superficial interactions and reduced face-to-face communication. Balancing online interactions with in-person connections is essential for maintaining deep and meaningful friendships.

Friendships are invaluable assets that enrich our lives in countless ways. They provide emotional support, contribute to physical health, foster personal growth, and strengthen social cohesion. Despite the challenges of maintaining friendships, the rewards far outweigh the effort. Investing in friendships is investing in a happier, healthier, and more fulfilling life. As the poet Ralph Waldo Emerson aptly said, “The only way to have a friend is to be one.” By nurturing our friendships, we create a network of love, support, and shared experiences that enhance our well-being and enrich our journey through life.

Throughout my adult life, I have found that making a concerted effort to develop friendships is necessary. They rarely develop without any effort, time, and planning. The end result is certainly worth the effort. However, I find it to be ironic how when we meet that special person with whom we connect in a magical way, a friendship can blossom with ease.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, August 2, 2014:

Tom was fairly relaxed at the Lisbon Airport during a long layover.
Tom took this photo of me at the Lisbon Airport. For more, please click here.

Why don’t we buy a motorhome and travel the US or rent an in other countries?…Advantages and disadvantages…

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Many travelers may find traveling their country in a motorhome (caravan or RV) appealing, but not to us. Not our photo.

We are often asked, “Why don’t you travel to the US or other countries by motorhome?” We haven’t in the past almost 12 years because we’ve spent most of our time outside the US, making owning or renting an RV impractical in another country for an extended period.

We are also not interested in renting an RV for short periods when we can easily travel outside the US using other means of travel, which provides us with a broader range of locations, safety, and cost options. Most certainly, traveling in the US in an RV is appealing, but neither of us, at our age, has any interest in the responsibility, cost, and upkeep.

In 1978, after subdividing some land in Minnetonka, Minnesota, I traded one of the vacant lots for a 36-foot King’s Highway Motorhome. As a single mom of two boys, I learned to drive and maintain it, and we often traveled the US, often with friends joining us, when I had time to take vacations while running my business.

Eventually, after realizing we wouldn’t use it as often as I would have liked, I rented it, off and on for a year, eventually selling it for a reasonable price. The experience left me with a dislike for traveling by RV based on the work required to set it up and take it down at various RV sites, with what seemed to be constant maintenance along with the cost of fuel.

Early on, before we decided to travel the world, we investigated purchasing a motorhome but lost interest when we both realized the cost would be prohibitive in today’s world since we aren’t campers and would have preferred modern conveniences over “roughing it.”

Over the years, we have met many travelers and friends who have reveled in home-free travel, living full-time in a motorhome. We commend those who made this big decision, but it wasn’t for us.

Today, we share our perspective of traveling by motorhome, RV, or camper, offering this unique experience with its own advantages and disadvantages. Here’s a breakdown:

Advantages

  1. Flexibility and Freedom: You can travel at your own pace, stop wherever you like, and change your plans on the go. This flexibility is one of the biggest perks of motorhome travel.
  2. Cost Savings: While the initial cost can be high, you save on accommodation and dining costs. Campsites are generally cheaper than hotels, and you can cook your own meals.
  3. Comfort and Convenience: Modern motorhomes are equipped with many amenities like beds, kitchens, and bathrooms, providing the comforts of home while on the road.
  4. Closer to Nature: Motorhome travel allows you to stay in scenic locations such as national parks, beaches, and mountains, bringing you closer to nature.
  5. Family and Pet-Friendly: Traveling with family members and pets is easier. Everyone has their own space, and you can bring along your pet without the hassle of finding pet-friendly accommodations.
  6. Social Aspect: Campgrounds and RV parks can be very social places, offering a sense of community and the opportunity to meet like-minded travelers.

Disadvantages

  1. Initial Cost and Maintenance: Purchasing a motorhome is a significant investment. Additionally, maintenance, insurance, and fuel costs can add up.
  2. Driving Challenges: Motorhomes can be difficult to drive, especially for those not used to handling large vehicles. Parking can also be a challenge in urban areas.
  3. Limited Mobility in Urban Areas: Large vehicles can be impractical in cities, making it difficult to navigate narrow streets, find parking, or access certain attractions.
  4. Fuel Consumption: Motorhomes generally consume more fuel than regular cars, making long-distance travel expensive.
  5. Upkeep and Storage: Motorhomes require storage space when not in use. Additionally, maintenance can be time-consuming and costly.
  6. Dependency on Campsites: While you can park almost anywhere, for overnight stays with amenities like water, electricity, and waste disposal, you often need to stay in designated campgrounds.
  7. Weather Dependence: Traveling by motorhome can be less enjoyable in bad weather, as it limits outdoor activities and can make driving more hazardous.

In summary, motorhome travel can be an enriching and flexible way to explore, but it comes with cost considerations, driving difficulty, and maintenance, none of which are appealing to our lifestyle.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, July 23, 2014:

Ominous-looking cloud at dusk from our veranda in Madeira. For more photos, please click here.

How to save big on business-class tickets…

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The typical interior of a commercial plane.

There have been several occasions over our last almost 12 years of travel, a few occasions by sheer luck at the airport and other times when we researched using the following techniques. Realizing it was more of a stroke of luck than due to our diligence, we started exploring ways to become more successful, but in some of the following, you’ll see it takes a concerted effort to accomplish such a goal.

How to Get Cheap Business Class Seats

Flying business class offers a range of perks and comforts that economy class can’t match, including more spacious seating, superior service, and enhanced dining options. However, the cost can be prohibitively high. Fortunately, there are several strategies to secure business-class seats at a fraction of the standard price. Here are some tried-and-true methods to help you fly in style without breaking the bank.

1. Use Frequent Flyer Miles and Points

One of the most effective ways to get cheap business-class seats is by using frequent flyer miles and credit card points. Many airlines have loyalty programs that allow you to accumulate miles through flights and everyday spending on affiliated credit cards. Here’s how to make the most of your miles:

  • Sign Up for Airline Loyalty Programs: Join frequent flyer programs for airlines you travel with frequently. Accumulating miles on these programs can eventually be redeemed for business class seats.
  • Credit Card Rewards: Use travel credit cards that offer points for every dollar spent. Some cards offer sign-up bonuses that can be substantial enough to cover business-class flights.
  • Strategic Spending: Use these credit cards for daily expenses to quickly accumulate points. Just be sure to pay off the balance monthly to avoid interest charges.
  • Transfer Partners: Many credit card companies have transfer partners. Transferring points from a credit card to an airline’s frequent flyer program can sometimes offer better redemption rates.

2. Book During Sales and Promotions

Airlines often have sales and promotions that can significantly reduce the cost of business-class tickets. Stay informed about these opportunities:

  • Email Alerts: Sign up for email alerts from airlines and travel websites to be notified of upcoming sales.
  • Follow on Social Media: Airlines frequently announce flash sales and special promotions on their social media channels.
  • Travel Agents Sometimes have access to exclusive deals that aren’t available to the general public.

3. Use Flight Deal Websites

Several websites are dedicated to finding the best flight deals, including business-class discounts. These websites can save you a lot of time and money:

  • Google Flights: Use Google Flights to track prices and set alerts for fare drops.
  • Scott’s Cheap Flights: This service sends email alerts about heavily discounted flights, including business class.
  • Secret Flying: This website posts error fares and flash sales for business class tickets.
  • The Points Guy: Offers insights on how to use points and miles effectively and posting deals and promotions.

4. Be Flexible with Your Travel Dates

Flexibility is key when it comes to finding cheap business-class seats. If you can be flexible with your travel dates, you have a better chance of finding lower prices:

  • Off-Peak Travel: Business class tickets are often cheaper during off-peak times. Avoid traveling during holidays and peak seasons.
  • Midweek Flights: Flights on Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays are often less expensive than those on weekends.
  • Last-Minute Bookings: Airlines sometimes offer discounts on business class seats that haven’t been filled as the departure date approaches. This can be risky but rewarding.

5. Bid for Upgrades

Many airlines have introduced bidding systems for upgrades, allowing passengers to bid for a business-class seat. Here’s how it works:

  • Check Eligibility: After booking an economy ticket, check if the airline offers a bidding system for upgrades.
  • Place a Bid: Place a bid within the range specified by the airline. If your bid is accepted, you’ll be upgraded to business class at a fraction of the usual cost.
  • Consider the Odds: Bids are more likely to be successful on less popular flights or routes.

6. Use Airline Companion Deals

Airlines often offer companion deals, where you can buy one business class ticket and get the second one at a significant discount or even free:

  • Check Airline Promotions: Look out for airline companion ticket offers, especially if you’re traveling with a partner.
  • Credit Card Offers: Some credit cards offer companion ticket benefits as part of their perks.

7. Leverage Corporate Discounts

If you travel for work, check if your company has a corporate travel agreement with airlines. These agreements can offer substantial discounts on business class tickets:

  • Corporate Travel Desk: Consult with your company’s travel desk or department to see if you can take advantage of these discounts.
  • Professional Associations: Sometimes, professional associations have partnerships with airlines offering discounted rates.

8. Consider Alternative Routes

Sometimes flying indirectly can save you money on business class tickets:

  • Stopovers: Opt for flights with stopovers, which are often cheaper than direct flights.
  • Alternative Airports: Look for flights departing from or arriving at alternative airports. For instance, flying into a nearby city and taking a short domestic flight or train can be cheaper.

9. Book Through Consolidators

Airfare consolidators buy tickets in bulk from airlines and sell them at a discount. While this method requires some research, it can yield significant savings:

  • Online Consolidators: Websites like Flystein and SkyClub offer discounted business-class tickets.
  • Travel Agencies: Some travel agencies specialize in business class travel and have access to consolidator fares.

10. Join Airline Newsletters and Loyalty Programs

Airlines frequently offer exclusive deals to their newsletter subscribers and loyalty program members. Signing up can give you early access to sales and promotions:

  • Exclusive Deals: Members often receive exclusive offers not available to the general public.
  • Early Access: Get notified about sales before they are advertised widely.

By using a combination of these strategies, you can significantly reduce the cost of business-class travel. Whether you accumulate miles, stay flexible with your travel dates, or take advantage of sales and promotions, cheap business-class seats are within reach. Happy travels!

We aren’t planning any flights now, but when we do, we will reread this post to remind us to use as many of the above techniques as possible to find the best possible prices on business-class flights. We hope you’ll consider doing the same.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, July 21, 2014:

We stopped along a beach on a road trip in Madeira to enjoy the views. For more photos, please click here.