Part 1…Pros and cons of the top ten most affordable countries for retirement living and travel…

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We boarded the Eurostar train, which travels under the English Channel, as we made our way to London for the second half of August 2014.

This morning, on the news, we repeatedly heard about the top ten states in the US for retirement. Since many of our readers live outside the US and can’t afford the high cost of living in this country for the long term, we decided to research the top ten countries worldwide for eventual retirement.

Adding the pros and cons is as important as listing the locations since many factors may be a deterrent for some. Thus, we’ve compiled this information with pros and cons in order to assist in the important topics for further research, which you may do on your own.

Tomorrow, in Part 2, we’ll list the second batch of the top ten countries for retirement or vacation/holiday again with the pros and cons.

In 2024, finding affordable countries to live in or travel to depends on several factors, including cost of living, safety, quality of life, and accessibility. Below are ten countries that are generally considered affordable, along with their pros and cons.

1. Vietnam

Pros:

  • Very low cost of living, especially for housing and food.
  • Rich culture and history with plenty of scenic landscapes.
  • Great street food and vibrant local markets.
  • Strong expat communities in cities like Ho Chi Minh City and Hanoi.

Cons:

  • Language barriers can be challenging.
  • Infrastructure in rural areas is less developed.
  • Pollution and traffic congestion in major cities.

2. Portugal

Pros:

  • Relatively low cost of living compared to other Western European countries.
  • Beautiful coastline, historic cities, and mild climate.
  • High quality of life with good healthcare and public transportation.
  • Friendly locals and a welcoming expat community.

Cons:

  • Bureaucracy can be slow and frustrating.
  • Language learning is necessary for full integration.
  • Wages are relatively low compared to other EU countries.

3. Mexico

Pros:

  • Affordable cost of living, particularly outside of major tourist areas.
  • Warm climate and diverse landscapes from beaches to mountains.
  • Rich cultural heritage and delicious cuisine.
  • Proximity to the U.S. for easy travel.

Cons:

  • Safety concerns in certain regions.
  • Language barrier in rural areas.
  • Bureaucratic processes can be cumbersome.

4. Thailand

Pros:

  • Very low cost of living with affordable housing and food.
  • Excellent healthcare services at a fraction of Western prices.
  • Warm climate year-round with beautiful beaches and mountains.
  • Strong digital nomad community, especially in Chiang Mai.

Cons:

  • Air pollution can be an issue in some areas.
  • Visa regulations can be complex and require careful planning.
  • Cultural differences may take time to adapt to.

5. Colombia

Pros:

  • Affordable cost of living, especially in cities like Medellín.
  • Beautiful landscapes, from beaches to mountains.
  • Vibrant culture with festivals, music, and dance.
  • Improved safety and infrastructure in recent years.

Cons:

  • Safety concerns remain in certain areas.
  • Language barrier, as English is not widely spoken.
  • Healthcare outside major cities can be limited.

Please check back tomorrow for more.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, August 14, 2014:

The other tiny room in Bistrotters in Paris with seating for 12.  Total seating appeared to be available for 24 diners. For more photos, please click here.

What d travelers do if they get “vacation diarrhea?” especially in a remote location…

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Venus de Milo by Alexandros of Antioch, also known as Aphrodite of Milos. It was amazing that we got this shot free of onlookers when hundreds were crowded around, also trying to take photos.

When we began our travels almost 12 years ago, we visited a travel clinic associated with our health plan in Minnesota. Not only did we receive many vaccinations (not necessary in many cases for short-term travelers), but our primary care doctor also gave us prescriptions, all of which we had filled out. We included copies of the prescriptions in our luggage to confirm we had received these prescriptions legally.

On another note, we have never been asked to produce copies of prescriptions in those 12 years. However, years ago, our supply of supplements/vitamins was questioned when we were traveling from Belize on a cruise. We had to produce receipts, which we would do by researching our online purchases, and 24 hours later, our supplements were returned to us. Go figure.

One of the most important prescriptions a traveler can bring is antibiotics in the event of gastrointestinal distress, such as vacation diarrhea. Vacation diarrhea is common when travelers drink non-bottled water and eat washed fruits and vegetables. Bottle water is available in every location we’ve visited, but it must have a sealed cap and preferably a familiar brand name. Also, do not eat foods washed in unsanitary tap water, such as fruit without a peel, lettuce, grapes, cherries, and berries.

Unsanitary tap water is common in many countries, even in some locations in the US. It’s also imperative to ask if the tap water has undergone a sterilization process such as reverse osmosis. Most larger hotels have purified water, but we always use bottled water to brush our teeth since some won’t sanitize bathroom water.

However, most camps and resorts do not have a process of sanitizing their water, and tap water served at the table in restaurants is unsafe to drink. Be careful of juices they may make using tap water, and avoid all raw fruits and vegetables, except for bananas, oranges, and grapefruit you may peel yourself. Apples, pineapple, melons, lemons, and limes may be unsafe in your drink. As mentioned above, salad vegetables are a no-no.

What can you drink with less concern? Brand-name beer and soda are served in the bottle that you open. Make sure to wipe the cap carefully or use a food-grade wipe to clean it. Often, bottled beverages are kept cold in bins of water and ice. Yes, it’s unsafe to use ice in your drinks. Bottle wine is generally safe. Most types of liquor are suitable for consumption; however, if you usually drink your chosen liquor with water, only use sealed bottled water.

What about drinks like Mai Tais, Margaritas, and fruity-flavored drinks? I would also avoid those when water may have been used in preparing such cocktails. Often, the language barrier makes it difficult to ensure sanitation processes are utilized. Instead, avoid any possible scenarios.

When should you start taking antibiotics once you get diarrhea? Ask your travel clinic or doctor this question in advance. They may say right away or to wait 24 hours or longer to see if it improves. But for most travelers, a day or two is too long to suffer when they long to continue with their plans.

It’s easy to let other, more experienced travelers or locals dismiss your precautions as unnecessary. But do not let anyone discourage you from being cautious. Locals and other long-term travelers may have developed an immunity to the toxins in water and food.

Even after spending over four years in Africa, we never used tap water. However, in some circumstances, such as dining at a Jabula, we would always eat the salad. This may not be the case in other restaurants in the bush; in those cases, we ate cooked food.

Traveling has a lot of challenges, but doing so can enrich our lives in ways that nothing else can compare. We can’t wait to get back “on the road again.”

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, August 13, 2014:

Artemis, the Moon Goddess, at le Louvre in Paris. For more, please click here.

Slight change on our site…Conquering the “fear of flying?”…

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An array of pocket watches were on display at Le Louvre in Paris.

A long-term reader wrote yesterday that our dark gray font was hard to read. After reviewing past posts, I agreed with the reader and contacted our web people. By this morning, our font had been changed to a regular shade of black. I wrote back to our dear reader, Linda, to thank her for bringing this to my attention. In the past, I took our font for granted and never questioned it. Hopefully, all of you will find this darker font easier to read.

Also, this morning, I stumbled across an article about the “fear of flying,” thinking we’re long overdue on addressing this critical issue that plagues many travelers and is often ignored when it may bespeak a lack of travel experience, self-control, and self-confidence. Many of us prefer not to appear so vulnerable by admitting to such a perceived “flaw” in our travel experience.

I used to believe I could outgrow fear, like an old pair of shoes. But when it came to flying, that fear clung to me like a stubborn shadow, refusing to fade no matter how many flights I experienced. For years, the thought of being thousands of feet in the air, suspended in a metal tube, sent my heart racing and my palms sweating. Yet, as someone who’s been living a life in motion for the past 12 years, I knew that conquering this fear was essential to continue exploring the world. Here’s how I began to embrace the skies and leave that fear behind.

It’s estimated up to 40% of people have some fear of flying or aviophobia.

The first step in conquering my fear of flying was understanding it. I realized that my fear wasn’t really about flying itself but rather the loss of control it represented. I could drive a car, sail a boat, even navigate the chaos of crowded city streets, but once the airplane doors closed and the engines roared to life, I felt utterly helpless. Acknowledging this was pivotal; I had to accept that control was an illusion, both on the ground and in the sky. This understanding didn’t eradicate my fear but gave me a framework to start dismantling it.

I began by educating myself. Knowledge, as they say, is power, and in this case, it was also a balm for my anxiety. I devoured articles and watched documentaries about flight mechanics, the rigorous training pilots undergo, and the safety measures in place. I learned that turbulence, which once felt like the beginning of the end, is a natural part of flying, no more dangerous than driving over a bumpy road. The more I understood the science and safety behind flying, the less mysterious and threatening it seemed.

Mindfulness became another powerful tool in my journey. I started practicing deep breathing techniques before and during flights, focusing on the rhythm of my breath rather than the what-ifs swirling in my mind. Visualization also played a crucial role—I would close my eyes and picture myself calmly boarding the plane, enjoying the journey, and arriving at my destination with a sense of accomplishment. These mental exercises didn’t just distract me; they helped rewire my brain to associate flying with positive outcomes instead of fear.

However, the real test came when it was time to step onto the plane. I tried to fly more often, not shying away from opportunities. Each flight was a chance to build confidence. I started with short domestic flights and gradually worked my way up to longer international journeys. I celebrated small victories along the way—the moment I realized I was more excited than anxious before a flight, or the first time I looked out of the window during takeoff and felt awe instead of dread.

What surprised me most about this journey was how it paralleled many other aspects of my life. Conquering the fear of flying wasn’t just about being able to board a plane without panic; it was about learning to trust the process, to let go of control, and to embrace uncertainty. These lessons learned 35,000 feet above the ground have grounded me in ways I never expected.

When I fly, I no longer feel like I’m battling fear. Instead, I feel a sense of calm and even a bit of pride. Every flight reminds me of how far I’ve come—in miles traveled and personal growth. Once a source of anxiety, the sky has become a place of possibility. And with every journey, I’m reminded that the most significant adventures often begin with a single step—or, in this case, a boarding pass.

Displaying my fear while on a flight was a fear unto itself. After many years, my dear friend Carol, a retired captain with Delta Airlines who worked for Republic Airlines when I met her in the 1980s, knew I was uncomfortable flying. Knowing this, she agreed to fly with me on a shared flight to a mutual end location. The following interaction on a flight finally freed me of my fear of flying.

While we flew together, Carol explained every sound and change occurring during the flight, which incredibly put my mind at ease. As Tom and I began traveling the world, flying on countless flights, some as long as 17 hours across the ocean, I found myself more at ease. It was only during takeoff and landing and severe turbulence that I’ve become uncomfortable since. Overall, my fear has been combatted.

We hope you can find ways to reduce your fear of flying if this has been an issue for you. If not, good for you! Continue to enjoy traveling wherever you may choose to go.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, August 12, 2014:

In taking this photo of the courtyard from a window at Le Louvre in Paris. I later thought it looked like a painting. For more photos, please click here.

Is Covid-19 still an issue?… What are travel requirements worldwide?…

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This tiny room at La Fountaine de Mars in Paris, where we dined, had seating for 16. The restaurant appeared to be a converted house with three of four rooms, such as this one on the second level, which we read was preferable to dining on the loud, busy main floor. However, some may prefer the more lively pace. For more photos, please click here.

In the past few weeks, two of our family members contracted COVID-19 and were sick for a few days with lingering symptoms. On each occasion, we were out with them for dinner the night before they came down with symptoms.

Overall, we have taken a laissez-faire attitude that Covid-19 is over, and travel worldwide is back to normal. But it isn’t over. The CDC has reported that 17.6% of tests have been positive over the past week. Still, this number doesn’t represent the general population, which only gets tested when they have cold/flu-like symptoms.

Remember that many people now don’t take a test when they have cold or flu symptoms. They let the symptoms run their course, perhaps infecting others in the process. Subsequently, statistics are highly skewed at this time. There’s no way to determine the actual number of cases in the US and worldwide.

However, travelers are booking trips to countries worldwide, many of whom have canceled trips during the pandemic and are anxious to get back on the road.

Travel and Leisure Magazine has a good article about current COVID-19 travel rules, which can be found here. It’s a good article to review if you plan to travel internationally.

As of August 2024, COVID-19 remains a significant concern globally, although the situation has evolved considerably since the height of the pandemic. Several key developments are shaping the current landscape:

  1. Global Trends: COVID-19 cases and deaths continue to be reported worldwide but at a much lower rate compared to previous years. The World Health Organization (WHO) monitors the virus through various surveillance methods, including wastewater analysis, which has become essential in tracking community transmission. Some countries are still experiencing fluctuations in case numbers, often linked to the emergence of new variants of interest.
  2. Variants and Vaccination: New virus variants, such as the JN.1 variant, are being monitored closely, though they have not led to significant surges in most regions. Vaccination efforts continue, with many countries now offering booster doses tailored to these newer variants. In Australia, for example, the government recently updated its COVID-19 vaccine rollout, emphasizing the importance of staying up-to-date with vaccinations, especially for vulnerable populations.
  3. Regional Updates: The number of new COVID-19 cases reported in the first week of August was relatively low, with few deaths reported. Testing continues, though most people now use Rapid Antigen Tests (RATs) rather than PCR tests. Authorities encourage the public to maintain their vaccination schedules and seek medical advice if they develop symptoms.

While COVID-19 is no longer the global emergency it once was, it requires vigilance, particularly in monitoring new variants and ensuring widespread vaccination coverage.

In the future, as we hopefully continue to travel, we’ll make a concerted effort to review guidelines and requirements for each country to ensure we are following current, up-to-date restrictions, if any.

This morning, we ate an early breakfast at Original Pancake House with Greg, Heather, Maisie, MIles, and Madighan. Seeing them all after this long week of staying in was delightful. When we left, I struggled to catch my breath after walking from the table to the curb, where Tom picked me up. Once back in our hotel room, I had to lie briefly to recover. But, now situated on the sofa, I am feeling much better.

The remainder of the day will be easy. Yesterday, we made dinner with leftovers for two more nights to be reheated. Today, I’ll make a big salad to accompany the main course.

Be well

Photo from ten years ago today, August 11, 2014:

Purse-free and with empty pockets, it felt great not to be bulked up when Tom carried our cloth bag with the few items we needed. I was standing behind the entrance gate to the Louvre in Paris. For more photos, please click here.

Part 2…Risks of getting sick in other countries…From water…

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The reflection from boats and buildings along the Seine River created beautiful scenes as we sailed on a luxury dinner cruise in Paris ten years ago.

Today’s post continues from yesterday’s Part 1 about illnesses while traveling caused by unsafe and unsanitary food and water. Please see Part 1 here.

Waterborne Illness

Contaminated water is another significant risk for travelers, especially in regions where tap water is not treated to the same standards as developed countries. Drinking contaminated water or using it to wash food can lead to severe illnesses, such as cholera, dysentery, and hepatitis A.

1. Drinking Tap Water: In many parts of the world, tap water is unsafe. It may contain pathogens like bacteria, viruses, parasites, and harmful chemicals. Even where locals drink tap water without issue, travelers can get sick because their bodies are unfamiliar with the local microorganisms. Always opt for bottled or purified water, and make sure the seal is intact before drinking. Carrying a portable water filter or purification tablets can also be a reasonable precaution.

2. Ice and Beverages: Ice is often made from tap water, so even if you avoid drinking it, consuming beverages with ice can still pose a risk. Similarly, juices, shakes, or other drinks that may have been diluted with local water can be hazardous. Drinking sealed, boiled beverages (like tea or coffee) from boiled water is safer when in doubt.

3. Swimming and Recreational Water: Illnesses can also be contracted from swimming in contaminated water. Lakes, rivers, and even some swimming pools may harbor pathogens that can cause gastrointestinal or skin infections. Accidental water ingestion while swimming, particularly in natural bodies of water or untreated pools, can lead to diarrhea, nausea, and other symptoms.

Risks of Poor Sanitation and Hygiene

Poor sanitation and hygiene are often the root causes of food and water contamination. In some regions, wastewater treatment and sanitation infrastructure may be inadequate, leading to the spread of disease through contaminated food and water sources.

1. Poor Hand Hygiene: Not washing hands thoroughly before eating or preparing food is a significant risk factor for illness. In areas where soap and clean water are scarce, hand sanitizer with at least 60% alcohol can be a vital tool for maintaining hand hygiene. Additionally, be cautious about touching your face, especially your mouth and eyes, with unwashed hands.

2. Inadequate Sanitation Facilities: Public sanitation facilities may be lacking or poorly maintained in many places, especially in rural or developing regions. This can increase the risk of coming into contact with harmful pathogens. When using public restrooms, it’s essential to be mindful of hygiene practices, such as using a tissue or sanitizer to avoid touching surfaces directly.

Mitigation Strategies

1. Be Informed: Research your destination’s food and water safety standards before traveling. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and World Health Organization (WHO) provide up-to-date information on food and water safety in different regions.

2. Vaccinations: Some food and waterborne diseases, such as hepatitis A and typhoid fever, can be prevented through vaccination. Consult with a healthcare provider before your trip to determine if any vaccines are recommended for your destination.

3. Pack Essentials: Bringing along essential items like a portable water purifier, hand sanitizer, and oral rehydration salts can help you manage minor illnesses and stay safe.

4. Eat and Drink Safely: Stick to bottled or boiled water, eat well-cooked food, avoid raw or undercooked dishes, and choose food from reputable sources.

The risks of getting sick from food and water while traveling can be significant, but with proper precautions, they are manageable. By being vigilant about what you eat and drink and maintaining good hygiene practices, you can significantly reduce your chances of falling ill and enjoy a safe and healthy trip.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, August 10, 2014:

The Palais de Justice, the French Palace of Justice. For more photos, please click here.

Part 1…Risks of getting sick in other countries…

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We encountered several merry-go-rounds on a long walk in Paris.

Our dear friends from Minnesota have traveled to Tanzania for their first African adventure, staying in a tented camp in a remote area. They are experienced and savvy travelers, but this is their first foray into Africa. They are dealing with food or waterborne illness.

But even after spending months in Africa, knowing the risks, I still got sick from eating a salad in Morocco in March 2014 when I couldn’t find anything on the menu that I could eat in a restaurant in the Medina known as The Big Square in Marrakesh.

I should have known better after spending over six months in Africa and avoiding getting diarrhea until Morocco. No one is exempt, regardless of travel experience, even when exercising caution when eating certain foods in restaurants and even self-prepared.

Fortunately, I had a wide array of antibiotics with us. After many days of being sick, I finally relented and took a three-day course of Cipro, a dangerous antibiotic that I discussed with our primary care physician before we left the US in 2012. I am not recommending this or other drugs if you are stricken with any conditions while traveling. It is imperative to discuss this drug with your medical professional since it can have serious side effects for some patients.

Within hours of taking the drug, I could feel it was working. The first sign was when my mouth got dry. Within about eight hours, the horrible diarrhea stopped, but I continued the drug as prescribed.

Even today, Americans are sickened from food they’ve purchased at a grocery store or dining out. In the past few days, a news story about a pregnant woman and many others getting seriously ill and some dying from listeria from eating Boars Head deli meat. Here’s the article from USA Today.

That doesn’t mean Boards Head meats can’t be eaten, but it certainly causes one to reconsider these products for now. Often, we are about illness from bagged produce, from lettuce to apples. Nothing is 100% safe. However, traveling in many countries may be even more dangerous than most foods in the US.

The risk of getting sick from food and water can be significant when traveling, especially to unfamiliar regions. These risks arise from various factors, including different food preparation practices, local water quality, unfamiliar pathogens, and poor sanitation. Understanding these risks and taking appropriate precautions can help mitigate potential health issues.

Foodborne Illnesses

Foodborne illnesses are one of the most common risks travelers face. These illnesses are typically caused by consuming contaminated food that harbors bacteria, viruses, or parasites. Common culprits include Salmonella, Escherichia coli (E. coli), and norovirus.

1. Uncooked or Undercooked Foods: Eating raw or undercooked food is one of the primary ways to contract foodborne illnesses while traveling. In many parts of the world, the safety standards for handling and preparing food may not be as stringent as in your home country. Raw seafood, undercooked meat, and unpasteurized dairy products are particularly risky. For instance, eating sushi in regions where the fish may not be fresh or consuming raw milk can lead to severe gastrointestinal issues.

2. Street Food: While often delicious and culturally significant, street food poses a higher risk for foodborne illnesses. Street vendors might not always follow hygiene practices, such as hand washing, keeping food at the proper temperatures, or protecting it from flies and other contaminants. However, it’s not necessary to avoid street food entirely. Opt for stalls with high turnover, which indicates that the food is fresh and hasn’t been sitting out for long. Watching how the food is prepared can also give you clues about its safety.

3. Cross-Contamination: Cross-contamination can occur when raw and cooked foods are mishandled. For example, using the same cutting board for raw meat and vegetables without washing them in between can spread harmful bacteria. Contaminated utensils, plates, or hands can transfer pathogens to otherwise safe foods.

4. Poorly Washed Produce: Fruits and vegetables can also be a source of illness, especially if they are not washed properly or are washed with contaminated water. Leafy greens, berries, and other fresh produce can harbor bacteria, pesticides, or other harmful substances. If you’re in doubt about the cleanliness of the produce, it’s safer to eat fruits you can peel yourself, like bananas or oranges.

Tomorrow, we’ll continue with water-borne illnesses in Part 2.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today,  August 9, 2014:

Tom was carrying his dress shoes in a bag when the dress code for the dinner cruise stipulated no sports shoes were allowed. However, on a rainy evening, they made exceptions when most passengers wore sports shoes. We returned to our hotel, a relatively short distance from the Eiffel Tower. For more photos, please click here.

What?…Power outage in US?…

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Historical dresses at a museum in Paris.

We were surprised when the power went out this morning and didn’t return until an hour later. It reminded us of load-shedding in South Africa, but with the stable infrastructure in the US, we didn’t expect this to happen. With no explanation after visiting the reception desk, we were handed two glow sticks in the event we needed to use the bathroom during the outage.

Apparently, other hotels in the area were also experiencing an outage. Tom left during the outage for a railroad retiree’s lunch but was concerned about leaving me alone. I encouraged him to go because I was entirely safe. My phone still worked in case of an emergency, and I could easily entertain myself with my phone until the power returned. I was anxious to get back to watching the Olympics.

Before Tom left, In an attempt to do a little walking, I headed to the office, a very short distance, to pick up two packages that arrived from Amazon: Redmond Real Salt and toothpaste. When I returned to the room, I attempted to open the packages to discover one was for chew sticks for rodents. Hmm…I certainly didn’t order those.

When I checked the labels on the two packages, I found that they were intended for another guest whose last name began with an L. This has happened several times since we’ve been here, yet I haven’t gotten into the habit of checking the labels when I collect the packages. I will do better going forward.

Shortly after Tom left, the power returned, and I was able to start preparing today’s post. I didn’t have a specific topic in mind, so I began writing insignificant, mindless drivel. I apologize for the lack of interesting comments on today’s post.

Right now, I am feeling good. I still get out of breath moving about a lot, so the obvious solution is “don’t move around so much.” Of course, I feel like a “slug” being so inactive. The most I do each day is make dinner in the small kitchen, requiring only a few steps to assemble everything. Thank goodness, I can at least do that.

Tom would gladly make dinner, but I insist, knowing that this simple task doesn’t spike my heart rate or blood pressure. Both of these have stabilized over the past several days since I decided to slow down while we wait to go to Cleveland. We are leaving in 17 days.

I will decide whether to go to Billy’s tomorrow night based on how I am doing. If I’m doing as well as I am today, I may be able to go, but I will be more careful this time, not moving around as much as I did last Friday. I won’t drink my usual several glasses of iced tea, so I won’t have to go to walk the long distance to the restroom.

Thanks for your continued thoughtfulness and kind messages.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, August 8, 2014:

View of the garden from the main bedroom at Versailles in France. For more photos, please click here.

Thanks for all the love and support…It’s amazing!…Staying calm in highly charged situations…

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One of many sculpted bridges in Paris.

First, I’d like to thank our readers who’ve posted comments and sent emails wishing us well regarding my current medical issues. It’s amazing that we don’t have “haters” sending our disheartening messages to make matters worse.

Many of us who post online are subject to hateful comments, which it’s hard to ignore. In this day and age, children, particularly, are bombarded with bullying cements from haters, literally ruining the lives of these young souls and, in some cases, contributing to suicide.

As adults, we’re better able to handle the vitriol, but we aren’t exempt from the emotional stress and damage caused by such hatefulness. Who are these people who feel they have a right to wreak havoc in the lives of those who choose to provide information online, whether or not the general public agrees with their viewpoint?

There is always a way to disagree and diplomatically share opposing opinions politely. Occasionally, we encounter an individual who is angry and unable/unwilling to control themselves when out and about. I often wonder what made them angry in their lives, whether they were in traffic or at the checkout line at the market.

In conducting research, I encountered the following suggestions on how all of us can maintain a sense of calm and respect when dealing with difficult situations.

Occasionally, I overreact when trying to make a point with Tom. Reading the following is definitely a reminder that I can do much better in making my position known.

Having a diplomatic conversation/encounter involves several vital principles and techniques. Here are some tips to help you conduct a diplomatic conversation:

1. Be Respectful and Polite:

  • Use courteous language and respect the other person’s opinions and feelings.
  • Avoid interrupting and listen actively.

2. Stay Calm and Composed:

  • Maintain a calm demeanor even if the conversation becomes tense or emotional.
  • Take deep breaths and pause if needed to collect your thoughts.

3. Use Neutral Language:

  • Avoid using accusatory or confrontational language.
  • Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements (e.g., “I feel concerned about…” instead of “You always…”).

4. Be Clear and Concise:

  • Express your points clearly and directly without being vague or overly wordy.
  • Stick to the main topic and avoid bringing up unrelated issues.

5. Show Empathy and Understanding:

  • Acknowledge the other person’s perspective and show that you understand their concerns.
  • Validate their feelings even if you disagree with their viewpoint.

6. Seek Common Ground:

  • Look for areas of agreement and build on them to create a collaborative atmosphere.
  • Focus on shared goals and interests.

7. Avoid Emotional Triggers:

  • Be mindful of words or topics that might trigger a strong emotional response.
  • If the conversation becomes heated, suggest taking a break and revisiting the topic later.

8. Practice Active Listening:

  • Show that you are listening by nodding, maintaining eye contact, and providing feedback.
  • Summarize or paraphrase what the other person has said to ensure understanding.

9. Be Open to Compromise:

  • Be willing to adjust your stance and find a middle ground.
  • Understand that a diplomatic conversation often involves give-and-take.

10. End on a Positive Note:

  • Conclude the conversation with a summary of the main points and agreed-upon actions.
  • Express appreciation for the discussion and the other person’s willingness to engage.

Example Phrases:

  • “I understand your point of view…”
  • “Let’s find a solution that works for both of us…”
  • “I appreciate your perspective on this…”

Practical Steps:

  • Preparation: Before the conversation, outline your main points and anticipate possible counterarguments.
  • Context: Choose an appropriate time and place for the conversation to ensure privacy and minimize interruptions.
  • Follow-up: After the conversation, follow up with any agreed-upon actions and maintain open lines of communication.

By practicing these techniques, you can improve your ability to have diplomatic conversations and build better relationships in both personal and professional contexts.

The above points can easily be utilized in dealing with loved ones during challenging conversations. We’re never too old to learn new ways of communication.

In any case, thank you for all the positive comments. I try to answer each one, but there are too many, which makes us all the more grateful for our kind and thoughtful readers. We are indeed blessed.

Be well

Photo from ten years ago today, August 7, 2014:

This is my favorite place in the gardens of Versailles. For more photos, please click here.

Amazing solution for Tom for a year’s long issue…

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Rechargeable batteries are required for these hearing aids, which can be easily recharged in the provided case. They come with a USB plug that easily plugs into the provided adapter, which plugs into any US outlet. For travel, one can use their usual device adapters. Also, the grey case is for charging while traveling. Two instruction booklets are included.

No words can express how excited we were after Tom picked up his hearing aids from Costco and found them working so well. He decided to go with the Philips brand and was thrilled. When he returned from Costco, I couldn’t tell he was wearing them—they are entirely invisible!

They couldn’t be better with the app on his phone to adjust them and the ability to hear incoming and outgoing phone calls. This makes a world of difference to him. But the benefits for me are indescribable. Finally, we can have a conversation without him saying, “What? What? What?”

Often, I’d be in another room and tell or ask him something, and invariably, he’d say, “I can’t hear you!”

You’d think I would have learned and stopped trying to talk to him from another room, but over the years, as his hearing worsened, I didn’t learn. It was frustrating for both of us. General chit-chat was severely impacted when I finally kept my thoughts to myself. Not that he prefers to hear every thought that pops into my mind! I will be considerate and not over-talk.

Many people, especially seniors, have hearing loss for various reasons. Tom’s case was hereditary, with many family members wearing hearing aids at young ages. Still, it was mainly due to working for 42½ years on the railroad with constant blaring noises, including the whistle on the locomotive, the steady sound of the diesel motor, and retarders used to slow down the train cars, often earsplitting. Nothing was soundproofed.

When Tom worked on the railroad, ear protection wasn’t required until the late 90s. By then, the damage had been done. Here are some facts about hearing aids.

The hearing aid package is in a sturdy box that he will save for future reference.

Hearing aids are essential devices for individuals with hearing impairments. Here are some key statistics and information about hearing aids:

  1. Prevalence of Hearing Loss:
    • Approximately 15% of American adults (37.5 million) aged 18 and over report some trouble hearing.
    • About 2-3 out of every 1,000 children in the U.S. are born with a detectable level of hearing loss in one or both ears.
  2. Hearing Aid Usage:
    • Around 28.8 million U.S. adults could benefit from using hearing aids.
    • Despite this, only about 30% of adults aged 70 and older who could benefit from hearing aids have ever used them.
    • Among adults aged 20 to 69, the percentage drops to about 16%.
  3. Technology and Types:
    • Hearing aids come in various types, including Behind-the-Ear (BTE), In-the-Ear (ITE), and In-the-Canal (ITC) models.
    • Modern hearing aids use digital technology to process sound, which allows for more precise amplification and noise reduction.
  4. Market and Costs:
    • The global hearing aids market size was valued at USD 9.5 billion in 2021 and is expected to grow significantly in the coming years.
    • Hearing aids can be expensive, ranging from $1,000 to $6,000 per device. However, the introduction of over-the-counter (OTC) hearing aids is expected to make them more affordable and accessible.
  5. User Satisfaction:
    • User satisfaction with hearing aids is generally high, and many users report improved communication and quality of life.
    • Factors contributing to satisfaction include the degree of hearing loss, the quality of the hearing aid fitting, and ongoing support from audiologists.
  6. Barriers to Adopting the Use of Hearing Aids:
    • Common barriers to hearing aid adoption include the high cost, social stigma, and a lack of awareness about the benefits and advancements in hearing aid technology.

These statistics highlight the importance of hearing aids for those with hearing impairments and the need for increased accessibility and awareness.

As for the process Tom went through to be fitted for hearing aids at Costco, which may differ from other facilities:

  1.  Make an appointment online or over the phone at your local Costco store.
  2.  During the month before the appointment, have your ears checked for wax build-up at Costco’s hearing aid department. No appointment is necessary.
  3. Return to the store for your scheduled appointment for a hearing test, fitting, and selection of brand and style. As shown above, Tom selected the Philips brand for $100 less than the other. However, he didn’t choose it for the lower cost; instead, he chose it for its ability to be hidden in and behind the ear. At this point, you’ll pay for the hearing aids in full, which will be approximately $1600. We used Costco shop cards and coupons for this price, saving about $200.
  4. Return after a new appointment is made for the final fitting, instructions, and app instructions. Bring your phone so the app can be installed and activated on your smartphone.
  5. Return a few weeks later for a final check to ensure everything works well.

All of the above appointments are included in the total cost. Tom was delighted with the service and the process, and now, much to his delight, he can listen to his podcasts and the streamed shows without using a portable Bluetooth speaker. Plus, conversations with family members and friends will be easy to hear going forward.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, August 6, 2014:

Mardi Gras costumes from centuries ago on a visit to Musee de Quai Branly, in Paris, built in 2006, an architecturally exciting museum with a wealth of treasures from around the world. For more photos, please click here.

Not much I can do…Making difficult decisions…

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We approached Notre Dame Cathedral on a luxury dinner cruise on the River Seine in Paris.

I keep switching between flying alone to Cleveland or riding with Tom on the two-day road trip. The thought of flying alone, even with the help of a wheelchair, is concerning to me. How can I be assured I’ll get the service I need to get on the plane, get to my seat, get help going to the restroom, get to the hotel shuttle on my own, and manage to check in?

Without Tom with me, this is all intimidating, given my current breathing problems. What if I had another “heart episode” on the flight or at either airport? It’s already stressful at airports—getting the wheelchair, going through security, waiting to board, etc. Usually, none of this bothered me. Now, circumstances are different.

The more I think about it, the more I lean toward riding with Tom. This morning, we discussed avoiding a roadside rest for bathroom breaks. Instead, we can stop at a gas station or restaurant. Based on past experience, I can go all day in the car with only one restroom break.

As I write about this, I’m convinced I’ll ride with Tom. We’ll stop for breakfast and one restroom break during each day’s drive, and in each case, he’ll get me as close to the door as possible.

I am contemplating whether I can go out while here. I am wondering if I will be able to go out to dinner with family. It all depends on how much walking I’ll need to do to get to a table. I now know I can’t go to Billy’s on Friday with Tom’s siblings. There’s too much walking required to get in and out and to the restroom.

This morning, I called Cleveland Clinic about this issue. They suggested I go to an emergency room until I explained I’d already done that, spending two days in the hospital with lots of tests. Until I have surgery, there is nothing that can help me. It is the way it is.

We will continue with our plans to get to Cleveland Clinic. In the meantime, watching the Olympics is wonderfully distracting and gets me out of my head. All I have to do is make a salad today, and Tom will do the rest for dinner. Once we use the food we have on hand, we’ll start doing takeaway until it’s time to go.

My son Greg has Covid, and we were out to dinner with him the night before he got symptoms. It will be a relief when the incubation period ends. Right now, it’s been five days, and we are ok. Fingers crossed.

When it’s time to begin packing I will sit on the bed and do what I can. Tom will do the rest. Through all of this, we are still maintaining a good attitude and making the best of this situation.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, August 5, 2014:

This is a typical Parisian scene of a French Balcony with no room for sitting but offers a view and often room for flowers, such as these. For more photos, please click here.