Six days and counting..Will we post during the road trip?…Did my wheelchair arrive?”…

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We often take photos of nearby restaurants and later look up reviews on TripAdvisor. In this case, in South Kensington, London, it ranked #1572 out of 17,134, making it in the top 9%, perhaps worthy of a visit.

Although, at this point, I struggle to prepare a post daily, we both appreciate your continued readership. The problem is more about deciding on a topic for the day, rather than putting it all together. Once I have a topic depicted in the heading, I can breeze through the post in a few hours with relative ease.

Right now, I don’t have the oomph to tackle a complicated topic requiring research and planning. As we have over the past many months since we’ve been in the US, the topics are most light and lacking major content, except for a few unique posts here and there with travel information.

With the road trip in six days, I’ve decided to continue to post using the app on my phone during the two-day drive. Most likely, I won’t add photos unless we encounter some interesting sightings along the way, nor will we include the “ten years ago photo.”

We have a lot to do to prepare to leave next Sunday, but we will try to continue posting over the next several days until we hit the road next Sunday.

My wheelchair arrived yesterday from Amazon. We were pleased that it was mostly put together. It only took Tom about 10 minutes to add and set the footrests. To my surprise, it’s very sturdy and comfortable, and it costs only $115 at Amazon with one-day shipping with Prime. It folds and unfolds easily and will travel well.

I now accept that buying a wheelchair was a practical and sensible decision. We tried it yesterday when we had to go to the office to print a document, and Tom carefully wheeled me over a few bumps and uneven pavement. But it worked well. It felt odd to suddenly appear at the reception office, sitting in a wheelchair when everyone at the desk was used to seeing me walking. But they were friendly as usual. No doubt, they were curious why I was in the wheelchair, but I didn’t say a word.

We have no social plans today through Tuesday but will go to TJ’s home for a barbecue on Wednesday. On Thursday, my dear friend Karen will be in Minnesota for business, and we’re planning a late lunch at Jimmy’s Kitchen and Bar. On Friday, I am having a pedicure with my dear friend Chere.

In each case, Tom will transport me both ways while I am using the wheelchair. In the late afternoon on Friday, we’ll head to Billy’s for our final get-together with Tom’s siblings. We’ll most likely see Greg’s family on Saturday. Two of the five of them have had COVID-19 these past weeks, and we’ve been avoiding getting together with any of them. We’ll see how they’re doing by Saturday before planning anything.

This morning, I made a batch of chicken salad for tonight’s dinner, and yesterday, I made shrimp salad. I can easily stand on my feet to cook in the small kitchen. We’ll have both salads tonight and tomorrow night, with a green salad on the side. Easy peasy.

That’s it for now, dear readers.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, August 19, 2014:

We walked past Christie’s in South Kensington, London, where we stayed for two weeks. The world-famous auction house occupies almost the entire block. For more photos, please click here.

I gave in!…Accepting the reality…How to live with this major life change…

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Tom was finally smiling again when I told him we wouldn’t have to “walk” the bags down the steep steps at the Eurostar station.

Last night, when Tom returned from Patty’s 90th birthday party, which I didn’t attend due to my current lack of mobility, I told Tom I needed to order a wheelchair from Amazon. Many of our readers wrote with this suggestion, to which I cringed for the reasons listed below. In my mind, doing so was “giving up.”

But I am not giving up. I am heading to Cleveland to hopefully resolve this breathlessness issue once and for all. This is not giving up. It’s moving forward with the utmost will and determination, especially after all these five months of waiting for the upcoming appointments beginning on August 28.

This breathlessness has occurred over the past three weeks, and I couldn’t wait another day. I’ve been unable to go anywhere to see family and friends since I can’t walk more than 20 steps before I have to stop and catch my breath. With only eight days remaining in Minnesota until we leave on August 25, I wanted to be able to get out.

I only need a wheelchair that is light, foldable, and easy for Tom to push me. We’ll be fine if we can fit it into the SUV we’re renting to get us to Cleveland. Once we’re at the clinic, we won’t have to wait to get a wheelchair, and we can use it at the hotel where we’ll stay during the first week.

Hesitancy to use a wheelchair can stem from a variety of emotional, social, and psychological factors. For many, the decision to use a wheelchair can feel like a significant and sometimes daunting step. Here’s a closer look at why someone might feel hesitant:

  1. Loss of Independence: Using a wheelchair might feel like a loss of independence or a symbol of decline. People often equate walking with autonomy, and the idea of relying on a wheelchair can challenge that perception.
  2. Stigma and Judgment: Society sometimes holds misconceptions about wheelchair users, associating wheelchairs with severe disability or a lack of capability. This can make individuals hesitant to use one due to fear of being judged or viewed differently.
  3. Identity and Acceptance: For those who are new to mobility challenges, using a wheelchair may feel like an admission of a new identity as someone with a disability. Accepting this new aspect of their identity can be complex and emotional.
  4. Emotional Adjustment: The need for a wheelchair can be sudden or gradual, and the emotional adjustment to this reality can take time. It involves processing feelings of grief, loss, or frustration about changes in physical ability.
  5. Practical Concerns: People might worry about navigating environments, especially in spaces that are not fully accessible. Concerns about logistics, like transporting the wheelchair or managing it in various settings, can contribute to hesitancy.
  6. Impact on Relationships: Some may worry about how using a wheelchair will affect their relationships, fearing it could change dynamics with family, friends, or romantic partners.
  7. Denial or Optimism: Hoping that mobility might improve or that a wheelchair won’t be necessary can delay the decision. This optimism can be both a source of strength and a barrier to accepting current needs.
  8. Financial Considerations: The cost of wheelchairs and potential modifications to living spaces can be a significant factor in the decision-making process.

If you’re hesitant about using a wheelchair, it’s essential to give yourself time to process these feelings. Reaching out to others who have gone through similar experiences, speaking with a therapist, or joining support groups can be helpful. Transitioning to using a wheelchair can be a positive step toward greater mobility, comfort, and independence, even if it initially feels challenging.

It was not an easy decision for me, but I was inspired by many of our readers’ suggestions (Thank you! You know who you are.) and my recent inability to spend time with those I love before we depart a week from tomorrow.

Be well.

Photo from ten years ago today, August 17, 2014:

Taken from our seats, which were more comfortable than airplane seats. I had pictured four-seat configurations with a table in front of us, which was not the case with our seats. For more photos, please click here.